"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Countering Slash & Burn

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Thought this would be useful for some.

It doesn't really matter what you did. It may have been completely justified. It may have been nothing big at all. But whatever it is, she is now redlined furious with you. Your relationship with her has just experienced an extreme shock and is all but over. Which is fine.

But now to top that, she has threatened to Slash & Burn. It may be a circle of friends, bars / clubs, or worse - a work place or something else of much greater importance. She intends to poison the waters and fvck things up for you in that scene going forward because of what just happened.

In many cases - Big Fvcking Deal, as the scene she is talking about is of little real importance. However, it can lead to embarrassing situations down the road. For example, you are in a club trying to have a good time with a group of girls and she shows up and blows up or catches them in the ladies room and spits a bunch of made up scandal...

What are some tips for how to handle this? How do you counter it when the scene or situation is important to you? Thanks!
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Haha, I had a similar situation.
Have a girl going around my school telling people I tried to molest her.
Needless to say, lots of people are out to get me.
 

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Any thoughts on this? I am sure this has happened to quite a few.
 
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