"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Countering neg-hits?

Schizofren

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I read that if you neg-hit a girl, she will most likely try neg-hit you back later on. So, to pass that test, you have to answer it the right way. So my question is, how do I react when a girl tries a neg hit?

As an example. This happened to me recently:

HER: "Why do you have your hair in a center part? You look like a hippy!"
ME: *mumbling something and ignoring it*

Well... she is right, atm I do look kinda hippyish. Though that´s not the point! What would be a proper reaction to this? Ignoring it did not work.
 

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spax

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Maybe you should've have jokingly replied..


ME: Oh yeh definetly, me and my buddies live on a farm together growing hemp. I'd invite you over to it some time, but I guess you're too wound up to hang with us hippies. - saying this this with a grin on your face, kinda sarcasticly.
 

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if a girl ever insults me, whether it's in a teasing way or not, I usually just say, "pshh, whatever," and maybe roll my eyes
 

The Sperminator

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I think ignoring it is best. People might say to counter it with a neg hit or ****y remark but I've learned not to anymore bc every time I did they would keep on negging me and it would start to annoy me and I was tired of keep on countering it so I just ignore them and it worked.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'd just give it back to her, or run with it, all in a joking way of course.

HER: "Why do you have your hair in a center part? You look like a hippy!"

ME: "I was actually going for the gay biker look, but hippy is fine, matches your hairy legs"
 

The Inside Man

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My roommate would always do the "mumble something" or try to appease her if she "neg hit" him or made fun of him. I think the goal is to get to a point where "neg hits" from girls don't affect you because of your confidence and options. One time I met a girl who I was introduced to through friends and she said, "I don't like you" for pretty much no reason at all, with a straight face. never met her before. I could have gotten upset or quiet, instead I laughed and joked about first impressions, dont remember exactly what I said. Then she laughed and started smiling.

I used to be the guy that got really pissed at girls if they would "disrespect me". Then I realized that they get a kick out of that kind of response, and now I either laugh amusedly, or am indifferent.

With that said, if you're with a girl for a while sometimes she knows the right things to say to stab you under the ribcage.
 

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Thanks for the replies! I think my biggest problem will be not leting it get to me.
 

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easylover said:
I'd just give it back to her, or run with it, all in a joking way of course.

HER: "Why do you have your hair in a center part? You look like a hippy!"

ME: "I was actually going for the gay biker look, but hippy is fine, matches your hairy legs"
lol...that is pretty much my style ^
i actually have this weird taste for sarcastic girls... in fact i went out with one today and she kept on neg hitting me==
...ignored her some of the time, but sometimes turned it around and made fun of HER... guess it depends on the personality... we got more physical :cool:...and it was more fun that way. she also found out that i'd win most of the time...so her teasing decreased drastically towards the end...which works to your advantage since most of you guys hate it when they do that.

but IMO...whichever way (ignoring vs. repartee) is fine as long as your confidence isn't affected.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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