Counter offer to hang out with mutual friends.

[be yond]

I hooked up with a friend.

I made the mistake of not contacting her until just under a week later.

She said she was busy when I asked her when she was free next, so I assumed her interest level took a big drop.

I asked her a couple of days later if she wanted to hang out and she countered by inviting me to hang out with a mutual friend that day who she had plans with.

I couldn't since I was house sitting.

She ended up messaging me the day of to see if I was going to come or not, but I had made plans by that point in addition to having to look after the place I was sitting.

Since then she has initiated all contact with me, but she's been asking me to do things with our mutual friends which I don't plan to do.

She's initiating contact more and more, but it's only mainly for that reason or to try and engage in conversation (which I'm not). After two or three texts I let her know I am going back to what I'm doing.

What does this mean?

I don't see it as a good sign because if her interest was high she'd want to get together alone.

I already asked her to hang out twice, so I'm no longer going to ask again, unless she presents the idea.

Just curious why she'd be contacting me so much if it's just about getting together with our friends or to try and talk...

 

[be yond]

My advice: it's a complete waste of your time and energy asking/knowing what it means.

I would simply invite her to join me for a drink, and I would be specific as to the day and time and place that I want her to meet me.

I would NOT agree to meet her via a group setting...your invite is good for one-on-one ONLY, and if she counters with a group date after you invite her to drink with you on a specific day, time, and place, then I would simply go ghost and stop inviting/texting her.

That's what I was thinking.

I'll take your advice.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Espi is right suggesting you to proceed that way.

In my experience any time a girl invited me in a group meeting or worse yet invited me to join her and her friends in that same moment, it was not only a sign of low interest but a sign of lack of respect too.
Only once it was an exception due to an other girl calling to meet while I was with her group and me almost leaving till she dropped her friends to stay with me.

Inviting a guy to a group meeting basically says that not only she doesnt feel any urge to be intimate with you but that she takes for granted that you're fine and happy to be her friend (orbiter).

Anyway as a general rule girls who put obstacles of any kind (other people, schedule, misscommunication) are usually signaling low interest.