"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Countdown to my victory day... (improvement journal)

jdawgmcb

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Alright guys, i have decided to finally do it, focus 110% of my time on pick up, even in front of college.

Right now i'm 18 years old; and i am considered a "senior" in high school...but i also attend college courses at a local community college (program called running start) as well as 2 classes at my high school. I have always been a mostly A student (except recently getting a B in calculus...but thats a different story)

So, as far as that loop goes, i am in the middle. (the loop for school level)

The last time i had a girlfriend was when i was 13 years old. The last time i had any action (including a kiss) was in 8th grade. That was the peak of my girl getting career.

Now that i'm almost done with my high school life; i want to have a senior year that is memorable on all aspects. I want to go to homecoming with a date; dance with her at the dance; and then get down with her at the afterparty... JUST LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE. (Doesn't even need to be sex)

I want to be able to go out and start sarging on any girls i see at a mall, sporting event, or any other public gathering without fear of rejection and immense amounts of anxiety (leading up to an anxiety attack.

I want to be able to select girls based on my needs; not on the ones that are available or left over.

As far as peer friends goes; i am somewhat in with the popular crowd that is a bit younger than me (most of them 16 and 17; but i have a few 18-19 year old friends as well, mind you i JUST turned 18) and they are always getting laid and it really bugs me. Not all of these kids have a driver's license; and i think i have done good at weeding out the ones that were using me for a ride, but sometimes i wonder.

I have read the don juan bible, mystery method, and the game. I have attempted to apply these to girls that are available to me in class; and i have only succeeded in getting LJBF'd and used as a ****ing emotional tampon (forgive my language, but i am done with this bs)

I am a short person, only 5'5" and i weigh about 140 lbs (somewhat bodybuilder, i have participated in weightlifting competitions) and i do NOT play sports like football, basketball, or baseball nor do i intend to.

The clothes i wear are mainly pua type clothes that i get from the bon (fun colors, designs, etc) for peacocking... but i can also conform to the athletic look if it will assist me (and i can actually pull it off)

Here is a picture of me (forgive the bad quality; its off my laptop currently no i do not have any hair gel in, but i usually wear some. Any suggestions for improvement?

Another few tidbits i thought i would throw in: I have suffered from anxiety disorders in the past (which were medicated with short term medicines like xanax and valium) as well as i have been diagnosed with depression (which was treated with drugs like prozac and lexapro ((i tried both)) ) I am no longer on the medicines (as i asked my physician to ween off both) by my own choice (yes done under doctor supervision)

People seem to refer to me as "Just Joe" which i have gotten from the girls that have LJBF'd me in the past when i had asked them for help on getting hooked up with someone (not sex; just a case where i can have some connection beyond friendship)

I tried to make a journal at the beginning of last year for a new years resolution; but that soon fell through.

I really need help here guys, and i am willing to do anything to get it. My victory day is obviously when i lose my virginity; but i will be extremely happy just starting to see some results. I want to create memorable connections with people; and have a more fulfilling social life rather than be known as the nerd in the corner.

So i ask you, respected members of the pick up community for your help, what can i do to improve myself? I am willing to TRY ANYTHING. (Yes; anything, it seriously can't get any worse for me now)

CLIFFNOTES:
I'm a short smart kid that hasnt gotten with a girl since 8th grade and i'm a senior now. Please help (NOTE i also go to community college)

I hope to soon come back to you with a post of gratitude expressing my victory day.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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tsmith2334

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jdawgmcb said:
Another few tidbits i thought i would throw in: I have suffered from anxiety disorders in the past (which were medicated with short term medicines like xanax and valium) as well as i have been diagnosed with depression (which was treated with drugs like prozac and lexapro ((i tried both)) ) I am no longer on the medicines (as i asked my physician to ween off both) by my own choice (yes done under doctor supervision)
Excellent job! Being able to come off the medicine speaks great volumes about your determination. All the ability to succeed lies within yourself and you have proven this.

By the way, I am not speaking negatively to anyone who is on medicine (it is a subject that hits close to home). I am just commending the desire to be weened off of such substances because I have found doing so to be an excellent choice from my personal experiences.
 

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tsmith2334 said:
Excellent job! Being able to come off the medicine speaks great volumes about your determination. All the ability to succeed lies within yourself and you have proven this.

By the way, I am not speaking negatively to anyone who is on medicine (it is a subject that hits close to home). I am just commending the desire to be weened off of such substances because I have found doing so to be an excellent choice from my personal experiences.
Thanks :), it was really hard to ween off the valium especially. However, now that i have been off them for a while, it seems like my game is going the wrong direction... which is why im desperate for help.
 

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Again guys, any input that you could give me to help me out would be vastly appreciated.
 

jdawgmcb

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I think im going to attempt to open 3 sets every day, regardless of how i feel.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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tsmith2334

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jdawgmcb said:
I think im going to attempt to open 3 sets every day, regardless of how i feel.
I wouldn't. Do me a favor and forget all this "opening sets" nonsense. Just say hello to people. Start a conversation here and there. Be friendly and pleasant. Most people are intrinsically nice and enjoy quick, pleasant exchanges even if it is with a stranger.

I saw a gorgeous cashier at a store the other day and talked to her for a few minutes. I didn't plan it or do it in the hopes of reaching a quota. She was beautiful and I felt like talking to her.
 

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If you could swap out the glass's and do something about your hair, your on your way, you ain't that bad looking, what kind of clothing you wear? I think you should go for the pop star look i.e. Justin timberlake, robin thicke

peace
 

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I'm getting a pair of designer glasses in about a week.

Also, I think im going to go for a shorter cut.
 
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