Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Counselling with Mr Rolo Tomassi

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samspade said:
Messiah...heck I always thought to summon RT you had to go to the Crossroads and play a little blues. Then you'll get all the chicks you want, for a price.
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Nice reference. :up:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Buddha_Mind said:
From the first essay, "True power isn’t controlling others, but the degree to which you control the course of your own life and your own choices."

I dig this man. Sometimes I get confounded in life as there's always a bigger monkey in the cage and to truly be 'top dog' I think is impossible (I have no desire to be top dog anyways). But rather than live in a jungle mentality of "outcompeting" others or AMOGing, your words are true. Focus on thyself.
You NAILED Buddha. Thats it. Thanks a lot. By the way, everything is flowing smooth!
 

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Purefilth said:
what happens If I look into the mirror at midnight and say your name three times :nervous:
Ha ha you guys are ridiculously funny. It's funny I was just asking about Rollo on another Thread some minutes ago and he appears in this one albeit 7 days late, lol.
Well, Rollo I do remember you saying besides your Vodka business that you counsel people. One would expect that you charge for it.
So, how have you been man. what's new with you these days?
 

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OP in the house. Gotta a new question for you guys. I made the worst mistake possible with the girl that we were discussing above and stated to her that I would not mess around with other girls. She did not asked me anything, I guess I did this because of my fear of she messing around with other guys. I know, this is a stupid chode move. Thing is, I guess I will not be able to stop gaming other girls and spin some plates ocassionaly. I love this adventures.

I was listening to Zan Perrion speak about honesty today, and I realized that I had everything in my favor to keep playing covertly with this girl and still being honest and I ****ed everything. What I always asked in girl is given me and I messed it up. She never asks about my where abouts, and try to not bother me with jealousy, at the same time I can see she is really really into me. Sure shot. The romance is going very well, very intense. I got a big part of her soul and heart in my hands, and I would like to keep this way. We are into each other big time. But I wish I was a more honest man. I will not make this mistake again. Lesson learned. But what should I do about a statement that I cant keep? Should I say to her that I love her but I can't promise what I stated (monogamy)? Should I let it behind and try to go from there with more ambiguity and coverty sub communication? I don't want to a coward and I really love this girl. Help me pirates!!

Ahhhh. The bitter taste of the red pill...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I decided not to tell her anything. Try too return to sub communicate my non exclusivity gradually while maintaining room to maneuvering. Let's where this takes us. Lesson here is, if you want to be honest, try to do it from start, and don't let the rush of hormones push you to make promises and compromisse yourself to a degree that you are not prepared. I have got some wonderful girls in my life, I VERY grateful for that. I don't want to hurt anyone, but also, I can't betray my nature. I will learn. Everything is cool. If I can hear some of the masters shot on this it would be nice ;D
 

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Too much talk, not enough action.

Not sure why you would say smth like that anyway..


Now if you get caught out by her she will brand you a liar and a cheat.

Ah well life goes on.
 

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Purefilth said:
Too much talk, not enough action.
Probably, but what actions do you see fit in this case? I had made a mistake and now I gotta follow along while working to be a better man.
 
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Atom Smasher said:
Nice reference. :up:
It's said that Robert Johnson sold his soul to the devil at the crossroads in Clarksdale, Mississippi. (US 61 & US 49).

I thought you had to use up up down down left right left right B A Start at the start of the game.

With all the mediation that I've been dealing with lately off of these boards, I could probably be a damn marriage/ relationship counselor. But, desire cannot be negotiated. The new Chrysler 300 that my dad is about to get, however, can be.
 

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Case closed Djs. Lets move on to another topic. This one is solved. Thanks for your participation!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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