"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Couldn't have gone better but...

Elf

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Hi guys

I've met this girl today, i have met her online before but this was the first time we have been together, we started talking about lots of stuff, i always tried some kino which she replied back, kissed, bite her in her ears, played with her hair, i guess overall she got into me, there's only one thing i think i've ****ed in kissing her in the mouth, when we were trying a kiss i touched her nose with mine, which may have been a turnoff for her, but unfortunately it happened, i was kinda nervous also so it wasn't perfect like i wanted to.

When we were leaving, i told her keep in touch with me, and she said smiling, now i'm not gonna say anything, with a i'm kidding in the end.

But there are 3 things she told me before ( ******** for this please ) :

1º She likes her space, having her friends, having her room to breathe and think

2º She doesn't like to show that she's interested even if she is. she just waits and doesn't make a move. This might be wrong but that's the way i am, she said.

3º She asked me if i thought our relationship would be more than a friendship. i told her the truth that i came from a painful experience but that i want to go with the flow, slowly, although i like her a lot.


Can someone give some opinions about this chick (16, i'm 22) , is there a possibility that she wants to play me for a fool or what ?

PS: I don't know if this interests or no, but when i was going to meet her, she was there with 2 friends, and when they saw me they started giggling and they seemed very excited, if u understand what i mean, she introduced me to her friends and then we left.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Elf
Hi guys
1º She likes her space, having her friends, having her room to breathe and think

2º She doesn't like to show that she's interested even if she is. she just waits and doesn't make a move. This might be wrong but that's the way i am, she said.

3º She asked me if i thought our relationship would be more than a friendship. i told her the truth that i came from a painful experience but that i want to go with the flow, slowly, although i like her a lot.


Can someone give some opinions about this chick (16, i'm 22) , is there a possibility that she wants to play me for a fool or what ?

PS: I don't know if this interests or no, but when i was going to meet her, she was there with 2 friends, and when they saw me they started giggling and they seemed very excited, if u understand what i mean, she introduced me to her friends and then we left.

Thanks
Hi spock, a, the thing with her friends is probably cool, girls like showing off their boyfriends/dates, especially if they are older. In fact it is probably a good thing, its also so she has something to do if you had stood her up and you know girls are so useless they are incapable of going to the toilet on their own, let alone finding somewhere and getting ready for a date (moral support).

these are my takes, but im 17 so i think thell be alright
1) likes her space, ie she doesnt want you to be too intrusive into her life, maybe not speak to her parents, not you being cloying. Bare in mind shes probably still in school, she wants the kudos of having an older boyfriend (everything is about popularity) but without having the troubles that come with it - parents, school, etc getting involved with you. Bit on the side.

2) Shes being very open if its true, it probably i, quite naive which is good as she hasnt learnt the games older women have. Ie you have to instigate most things (but be wary sometimes theymean the opposite of what they say.)

3)dunno about the i like her a lot, although she seems quite open so its probably alright, it does not mean anythng apart from i think she wants to be more than friends with you. She can be freinds with younger guys, but having an older boyfriend is cool.


aight

good luck
 

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The problem is that i don't know what shall i do next, if she is the type of not showing her emotions, how can i really know that she likes me or not?

**** i'm just seeing myself like i did in past situations getting anxious and confused as why she doesn't say anything, that shows that she's interested, seeing myself calling her and asking if she saw any negative things about me etc. I'm just seeing her giving me a no and i becoming mad at her, and forgetting that maybe one of her friends might dig me. This is what AFC is all about, thinking way too much, if there only was a way of controlling this behaviour i would love to know it. I'm tired of ****ing up things by rushing them way too much or wanting things in a desperate way.

I guess she will not say anything, then what shall i do if she doesn't? let a few days go by and ask her for a date or let her go? i sure hope i don't feel anxious and get those ideas that she didn't like me because the way i looked etc etc.

Thanks JSH for your answer
 

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Dude, maybe you missed the memo BUT THIS GIRL IS 16. She's barely old enough to drive. If you want your chicks to show any semblance of emotional maturity then find someone your own age. If you want to keep pushing the pedophile envelope then you have to be prepared for the highschool-girl mentality. Why is this so hard to figure out?

I'm only 19 and I wouldn't even waste my time trying to figure out what kind of stupid games a 16 year old slut is playing.
 
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