Thanks in advance. I'm just now finding this forum so bare with me and some of my aloof actions I'm about to describe. I'm starting to realize I did a lot of things wrong.
So I met this girl online about a month and a half ago. She's 25 and in college and I'm 33 with a full time job and renting my own condo. We starting chatting online and we were hitting it off a little bit, no quick chemistry atleast not yet. I drove an hour to meet her for coffee. She is attractive, nice body but there wasn't a big connection other than the physical. After about 2 hours of talking she left and I left. Everything was cool. I like her and I wanted to see her again.
On the way home I texted her and told her she looked even better in person. She said thanks and didn't compliment me back. That kind of caught me off guard. I had never complimented a girl and she didn't return it. I thought it was rude so I kind of was tentative about asking her out again. I ended up asking her out again and we met for breakfast the next weekend. The conversation was great, she looked good, everything was good. We went to another coffee shop after to keep talking.
Fast forward. She implied none of these meetings were dates unless I actually asked her on a date. I asked her on a date and she got all excited at least that's how it seemed in her text. However, when I spoke to her on the phone she would be quick to get off or tell me she would call me back and wouldn't so I quit calling her. She texted me and basically invited herself to my place and said there we wouldn't be bothered by anyone.
We drank on the date, had a good time and went back to my place. Nothing happened, we hugged and she left. I passed out. She texted me the next day saying what a great date it was and how excited she was after. I asked her how she felt about me in a text (I know, bad idea) and she told me I should have asked her in person and that she thought I was nice, and not overbearing.
It seems like she's lukewarm towards me so I just kind of got blunt in the messages. Told her I felt the same way and left it at that. I asked her if she just wanted to hangout and she didn't get my point. She was keeping me in this in between of not saying she was interested in going on more dates or just going back to hanging out. She apologized for me getting the wrong impression and she reiterated that she told me that she was looking to make friends and go from there.
I was just dumbfounded and a little hurt. I just kept responding that I get it, we are on the same page now. She kept saying she really liked me and then I got really blunt with her and told her why did we even go on a date if your focus was to be friends. Then I went in...asked her who goes on a dating site to make friends, why am I taking you out spending money if we are just going to be friends, if we are just friends then why didn't you chip in on anything? She told me she really like me, thought about kissing me but didn't want to rush it and that she felt like a fool now. She said she was done, pleasure meeting me and goodbye.
I'm pretty embarrassed about how emotional I got. I felt like an idiot afterwards. I apologized several times over the next couple of days and she was pretty much done. She told me we could try talking again after I got back from out of town and we did. It went well but I could tell she was defensive. She reluctantly agreed to meet again, gave me the wrong address for the place we were supposed to meet and then got agitated with me for being late. There was no fixing it. We didn't have a good time and when I try to set up another meet she complains about money or time even though she'll give me times when her schedule is open and then tell me it's not fair for me to drive all that way.
I know I need to go just NC. Occasionally she contacts me but it's usually just to talk about herself.
So I met this girl online about a month and a half ago. She's 25 and in college and I'm 33 with a full time job and renting my own condo. We starting chatting online and we were hitting it off a little bit, no quick chemistry atleast not yet. I drove an hour to meet her for coffee. She is attractive, nice body but there wasn't a big connection other than the physical. After about 2 hours of talking she left and I left. Everything was cool. I like her and I wanted to see her again.
On the way home I texted her and told her she looked even better in person. She said thanks and didn't compliment me back. That kind of caught me off guard. I had never complimented a girl and she didn't return it. I thought it was rude so I kind of was tentative about asking her out again. I ended up asking her out again and we met for breakfast the next weekend. The conversation was great, she looked good, everything was good. We went to another coffee shop after to keep talking.
Fast forward. She implied none of these meetings were dates unless I actually asked her on a date. I asked her on a date and she got all excited at least that's how it seemed in her text. However, when I spoke to her on the phone she would be quick to get off or tell me she would call me back and wouldn't so I quit calling her. She texted me and basically invited herself to my place and said there we wouldn't be bothered by anyone.
We drank on the date, had a good time and went back to my place. Nothing happened, we hugged and she left. I passed out. She texted me the next day saying what a great date it was and how excited she was after. I asked her how she felt about me in a text (I know, bad idea) and she told me I should have asked her in person and that she thought I was nice, and not overbearing.
It seems like she's lukewarm towards me so I just kind of got blunt in the messages. Told her I felt the same way and left it at that. I asked her if she just wanted to hangout and she didn't get my point. She was keeping me in this in between of not saying she was interested in going on more dates or just going back to hanging out. She apologized for me getting the wrong impression and she reiterated that she told me that she was looking to make friends and go from there.
I was just dumbfounded and a little hurt. I just kept responding that I get it, we are on the same page now. She kept saying she really liked me and then I got really blunt with her and told her why did we even go on a date if your focus was to be friends. Then I went in...asked her who goes on a dating site to make friends, why am I taking you out spending money if we are just going to be friends, if we are just friends then why didn't you chip in on anything? She told me she really like me, thought about kissing me but didn't want to rush it and that she felt like a fool now. She said she was done, pleasure meeting me and goodbye.
I'm pretty embarrassed about how emotional I got. I felt like an idiot afterwards. I apologized several times over the next couple of days and she was pretty much done. She told me we could try talking again after I got back from out of town and we did. It went well but I could tell she was defensive. She reluctantly agreed to meet again, gave me the wrong address for the place we were supposed to meet and then got agitated with me for being late. There was no fixing it. We didn't have a good time and when I try to set up another meet she complains about money or time even though she'll give me times when her schedule is open and then tell me it's not fair for me to drive all that way.
I know I need to go just NC. Occasionally she contacts me but it's usually just to talk about herself.
