Could this be what's been holding me back?

[Bulletproof Heart]

So I don't want to sound ****y or anything, but I've been told several times that I'm a "hot" guy, I work out often, got a lot going for me as I'm doing great in college, and I feel as if I have a lot to offer girls. Yet as I said in my first post a couple of weeks ago, I don't know why I have trouble getting girls to open up.

Anyway, last night me and a few friends went to get some food at a restaurant, and one of my best friends asked me why I look so mad all the time. This really got me thinking. I mean, I'm not even close to mad most of the time, yet apparently I come off as being mad all the time? Could this be what's been holding me back? I mean, if others feel you're mad they'll label you as unapproachable or simply no fun.

What do you guys think? Could this be the key to success?

 

[eko]

So I don't want to sound ****y or anything, but I've been told several times that I'm a "hot" guy, I work out often, got a lot going for me as I'm doing great in college, and I feel as if I have a lot to offer girls. Yet as I said in my first post a couple of weeks ago, I don't know why I have trouble getting girls to open up.

Anyway, last night me and a few friends went to get some food at a restaurant, and one of my best friends asked me why I look so mad all the time. This really got me thinking. I mean, I'm not even close to mad most of the time, yet apparently I come off as being mad all the time? Could this be what's been holding me back? I mean, if others feel you're mad they'll label you as unapproachable or simply no fun.

What do you guys think? Could this be the key to success?

maybe ur not easy going enough cause i had the same problem. relax and smile. if u look tense people can mistake it for being mad

 

[WC2]

Do you judge yourself too much? Do you worry about what others think of you?

You sound like one of those guys who goes to the gym everyday and expects ***** to flock to your 6 pack. I've got some news for ya, if the only thing you have to offer to a woman is a 6 pack, she's not impressed.

Some guys have a hard time coming out of their shell early in life and when they finally do, they are looking down the road at marriage.

Do me a favor. Next time you go out, try something new. Maybe you're just a little too much to yourself and you don't speak up? Maybe you need to smile and have some more fun? Giving off positive, alpha-like vibes is a huge part of attracting the opposite sex. Do you try to be the leader of your group of friends? Do you take control of situations and execute before anyone else?

I know, a lot of questions, but these are all things that will help improve your attraction with women.

 

[Bulletproof Heart]

Do you judge yourself too much? Do you worry about what others think of you?

You sound like one of those guys who goes to the gym everyday and expects ***** to flock to your 6 pack. I've got some news for ya, if the only thing you have to offer to a woman is a 6 pack, she's not impressed.

Some guys have a hard time coming out of their shell early in life and when they finally do, they are looking down the road at marriage.

Do me a favor. Next time you go out, try something new. Maybe you're just a little too much to yourself and you don't speak up? Maybe you need to smile and have some more fun? Giving off positive, alpha-like vibes is a huge part of attracting the opposite sex. Do you try to be the leader of your group of friends? Do you take control of situations and execute before anyone else?

I know, a lot of questions, but these are all things that will help improve your attraction with women.

You know, I probably do judge myself more than I should, and worry about what others think. I was kinda chubby as a kid (got in shape around 13), and I got teased at school for it back then. I think that's kinda stuck with me and that's why I sometimes care too much.

But not, I actually don't take lifting that seriously anymore. I used to be into bodybuilding but I only do it to stay in good shape now. So no I don't go around taking my shirt off and hoping girls come running to me. But I see where you're going with that. Good advice. Thanks.

 

[AKA FLEX]

Eye contact and a smile will do wonders for your approachability.

 

[Tekniq]

Smoke a joint before you go out, and if you are still mad looking, lay off the botox treatments.

 

[Effington]

Mastering body language is really important, especially when you're meeting new people. It's first impression mode. Throw on a smile, be personable, and you'll likely get the same in return. If you're grumpy, you'll get the same in return.

I definitely understand where you're coming from, but you have to look at it from the other point of view. If someone starts talking to you and looks way too serious, almost grumpy/annoyed, would you think they're happy and liking you? Of course not!

 

[SinJester]

What's holding you back is probably not you looking mad all the time, it's probably you over analysing! It should be simple, especially if girls find you 'hot'.

That being said you need to have a balence between not overanalysing and fixing your problems.

A lot of people say it's bad to smile too much!

 

[jcap]

make sure you do not FROWN with your eyebrows continusllly

some people when they workout have like mad eyebrows, they keep doing this
eventually tehres like this mad eyebrowing going around

and you don't even know it but you look like a freaken psycho with those mad eyebrows

all from weight lifting, or continusally depressed atittutdues