"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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could this be a reason?

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After going out with a girl for 2 months, and never really saying that I liked her or something like that, she tells me LJBF. We ****ed and all and I got the impression she thinks I only dated her for the puzzy so she lost interest. Is it possible she LJBFed me cause she thinks I just wanna fuc k her?
I mean I dont love her or anything, I was just wondering.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You ask if this could be a reason.
Yeah, might be.

If you want a more specific answer, give a more specific question.
 
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After I got LJBF I cut all contact (and unfortunately she didnt call me too) and a few days ago I met her again. We went out, had a drink, I said to her, with a grin, Did you miss me, and she said I thought I wouldn't but I did miss you. As we had to go each to their own side I told her should I call you, she said if you want to, I said Yes or no? and she said yes. What should I think of it?
I wouldn't ask these questions but as I met her accidentaly I wanted to see what was going on.
 
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She could still like you a small bit.

I gues you could try doing what you do best, see if she'll open up again?
 
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OK so I talked with her, she's going an holiday in 3 days and agreed to meet me again. Without any excusses.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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