"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Could they be crumbling?

The LadyKiller

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If two people are dating for approx. 5 years and haven't moved in together, are they teetering on the outs?

I know a HB8 who is in this situation with her boyfriend. I don't have one-itis (I've gotten to know some new girls), but if HB8 were to become single, she would be one of my main plates. At the same time, I don't feel comfortable asking out taken women and have never done so.

With this in mind, a friend of mine recently told me that if he and his gf aren't living together by Year 5, something went "very wrong." I have a second friend who plans on moving in with his gf once they hit Year 3 and a third friend planning to propose to his gf in Year 3 as well.

Everyone involved is in their mid 20s. Am I onto something here or does it mean nothing?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Naughty Ninja

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The LadyKiller said:
If two people are dating for approx. 5 years and haven't moved in together, are they teetering on the outs?

I know a HB8 who is in this situation with her boyfriend. I don't have one-itis (I've gotten to know some new girls), but if HB8 were to become single, she would be one of my main plates. At the same time, I don't feel comfortable asking out taken women and have never done so.

With this in mind, a friend of mine recently told me that if he and his gf aren't living together by Year 5, something went "very wrong." I have a second friend who plans on moving in with his gf once they hit Year 3 and a third friend planning to propose to his gf in Year 3 as well.

Everyone involved is in their mid 20s. Am I onto something here or does it mean nothing?

So you "don't" have one-itus. Yet you're counting on someone who is in a relationship for 5 years and hasn't moved in together with her BF as a possible main plate while looking at other relationships as "confirmation" and asking friends and SS if this is the crumbling wishful thinking green light for you?

There are no guarantees in life. Get over it. Keep seeing/ meeting other chicks. If something eventually happens down the road with HB8 then worry about it. Not now.
 

pinkfl

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Or maybe they don't want to live together before engagement or marriage, because shacking up nowadays can have similar legal consequences. Stop looking at someone that's taken and creating imaginary arbitrary rules in your head for how she might be the one for you in an alternate universe.
 

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Agreed with above. It actually probably means the relationship is doing better then it would if they moved in together. I would only move in, if i were engaged to the girl.
 
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