Could still being in love with your ex be a benefit

[benogan]

If you're sleeping with a girl, and she wants to get more serious, could telling her you don't want a relationship cause you're still in love with your ex increase her interest? Make her want to chase you more to get you to get over her.

Maybe she'll think "what does this girl have that i dont?" "Why can't I make him get over her?"

Not sure. Just a thought. What do ya'll think?

 

[papawapa]

Hell no. Women are very insecure when it comes to exes. If she thinks there is a chance you will get back with your ex, which she will if you say you are still in love with one, she will not want to commit to you.

 

[Jariel]

The problem with this is that if she's a self respecting or smart girl, she will recognise the red flag and bail. Or she will start looking out for another guy with less emotional baggage.

That's what us guys would (should) do, right?

When you get into the realm of playing games, it's usually the start of a downward spiral. It's far better for her to wonder about you and for you to leave her guessing than to say anything like this directly to her.

If you want to raise her interest, be a challenge, hold back on contacting her from time to time, but generally the less you say the better.

 

[El Payaso]

If she isn't a nutter, she'll bail once you say that.

 

[Johnny Alias]

But if she is a nutter she will stick around... big time... because you are emotionally unavailable...

But this creates its OWN set of problems... believe me... nothing like a girl showing up at your house out of nowhere ready to kick another chick's ass...

 

[sylvester the cat]

i'm assuming you are interested in the girl you want to confess to? if so why would you even dream of doing such a thing?

the only time i confessed that i was still in love with another was in the hope of getting rid of a girl. imagine my surprise when she stuck around. my respect for her diminished as a result. no self-respecting person would stick around for that.