Could one look "too masculine" to the point of intimidating women?

[CaptainNotSoObvious]

I tend to think of myself as a rather good-looking guy. But not your typical "girlish like"/Hollywood good-looking.

I have that "tough guy look", intimidating perhaps.

This is the top comment I get from women "You look really manly and intimidating". I am the kind of guy that if you see walking towards you, you change to the other side of the street.

But somehow I have the feeling that this plays against me on the dating scene as I feel that most women are afraid to approach me.

What can I do to alleviate this?

 

[Julian]

“Most women are afraid to approach me”

Mfker! Its NOT THE WOMANS JOB TO APPROACH YOU!

 

[CaptainNotSoObvious]

“Most women are afraid to approach me”

Mfker! Its NOT THE WOMANS JOB TO APPROACH YOU!

Well, f*cuk, I thought that I should be doing"my own" thing, be successful in life and let women approach me, and not chase or approach women.

So many ass*holes, so many opinions I guess.

 

[sangheilios]

I'm no expert on this, but I have some personal experience that may help you.

I'm white, 6'4", naturally broad shouldered and around 230, I lift regularly so I'm pretty lean and have an athletic build. Anyway, since around 25 I've been shaving/buzzing my hair, due to it starting to thin a bit, and look like I got out of bootcamp. One person I know very recently said I looked like a white Vin Diesel.

Anyway, here is something that I've noticed, which is young white women generally are not very open with me. The interesting thing is that I was raised in a very well off white household. Most of these women generally go for white men that take on a more polished look, as that is what they were used to growing up. Think of guys like Brad Pitt, he is attractive and well dressed but no one would really describe him as ruggedly handsome, masculine looking, etc.

I don't think you should worry about what women AREN'T into you and figure out which types that actually are and go from there.

Also, some of these women may have been cheated on, hurt or possibly abused by men in the past that you remind them of, and if not they may just feel that you may be "risky". The reality is you are probably a normal and decent guy, so I wouldn't bother with women who have these issues that they are dealing with.

 

[Julian]

Well, f*cuk, I thought that I should be doing"my own" thing, be successful in life and let women approach me, and not chase or approach women.

So many ass*holes, so many opinions I guess.

You should be all those things BECAUSE they will give you more confidence to approach a female and also will give you a better shot of scoring her. All that bs u said is called marketing, but it still up to u to make the sale.

 

[soulforge]

I have the exact same problem/blessing.

I'm a muscular hench guy.. I have been described as scarey on a few occasions lol

Even been told I should work as a bailiff/enforcement agent.

I have that, don't fuk with this guy look.

I'm pretty sure girls find me intimidating!

 

[derby1]

becoming said guy ie more muscle and better mindset has totally destroyed my LTR potential

i can get sex no probs, but chics wont want the hassle of hanging round with me and my boundaries, when they have simps and society fawning over them....

they cant even stop blimping out

if you want LTR in 2019 best off being cuck, or keep biches in side chic mode

 

[cola]

Like attracts like, you’ll do fine with women you just will attract “bad girls”.. which is fine.

 

[CaptainNotSoObvious]

This is me a couple of years ago.

Since I get sick, I lost some weight after that.

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[biggoal]

I'm no expert on this, but I have some personal experience that may help you.

I'm white, 6'4", naturally broad shouldered and around 230, I lift regularly so I'm pretty lean and have an athletic build. Anyway, since around 25 I've been shaving/buzzing my hair, due to it starting to thin a bit, and look like I got out of bootcamp. One person I know very recently said I looked like a white Vin Diesel.

Anyway, here is something that I've noticed, which is young white women generally are not very open with me. The interesting thing is that I was raised in a very well off white household. Most of these women generally go for white men that take on a more polished look, as that is what they were used to growing up. Think of guys like Brad Pitt, he is attractive and well dressed but no one would really describe him as ruggedly handsome, masculine looking, etc.

I don't think you should worry about what women AREN'T into you and figure out which types that actually are and go from there.

Also, some of these women may have been cheated on, hurt or possibly abused by men in the past that you remind them of, and if not they may just feel that you may be "risky". The reality is you are probably a normal and decent guy, so I wouldn't bother with women who have these issues that they are dealing with.

So what way is it supposed to be? So we have tall men like yourself and built and intimidating but then you have short or smaller bone frame men that according to many on here women don't like but others say really tall and built men they like.

 

[thinker]

@CaptainNotSoObvious I used to have the same problem. Women would sometimes look straight up scared when they saw me. One time I was talking to this guy I knew who was good with the ladies and told him the sticking point I was having. He took a good look at me and told me that I look very masculine and that I had dangerous looking eyes. His advice was to smile but not with a big smile. I started giving women a playful smirk from then on and haven't had that issue.

 

[CaptainNotSoObvious]

@CaptainNotSoObvious I used to have the same problem. Women would sometimes look straight up scared when they saw me. One time I was talking to this guy I knew who was good with the ladies and told him the sticking point I was having. He took a good look at me and told me that I look very masculine and that I had dangerous looking eyes. His advice was to smile but not with a big smile. I started giving women a playful smirk from then on and haven't had that issue.

I NEVER smile at random women. Good tip. Might help soften my rugged image.

 

[soulforge]

@CaptainNotSoObvious I used to have the same problem. Women would sometimes look straight up scared when they saw me. One time I was talking to this guy I knew who was good with the ladies and told him the sticking point I was having. He took a good look at me and told me that I look very masculine and that I had dangerous looking eyes. His advice was to smile but not with a big smile. I started giving women a playful smirk from then on and haven't had that issue.

I feel fearful just reading you're post

 

[EyeBRollin]

“Too masculine” = steroids.

Long as you stay natural, it is impossible to look too masculine.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Hard to say but I believe both men and women assess someone according to their look (yeah kinda obvious) so while we avoid that porn star looking woman with big boobs and slvtty face cause we think she will create drama or cheat, it could be the case that women see very masculine men as violent or unreliable.

 

[Epic Days]

I’ve always been that way. I just go with it. It’s important to be in shape though.

 

[2Rocky]

You are not being "warm" enough. When you are intimidating, and you smile at a woman warmly while making eye contact she will melt into your frame.

Your Resting Bitchface may be a problem....