Could my social circle be hurting me?

[Bonafide]

Ok well heres my situation dudes. So yeah, im in High School...16 and uh... handsome would be an under statement... but yeah im pretty good lookin. I play sports, good at every sport I play. I do a little bit of modeling. But heres where it gets tricky. I get a good feeling that these females really like me. I mean they love to talk to me and show signs of interest...but only when nobody else is around. So im coming to the conclusion that, they like me...but dont want anybody else to know it...why? Because I hang out with "geeks." I don't know how this came about...but I mean the guys I hang out with arent Macs, they aren't ladies men...they are just average guys...I dont think any of em ever had a girlfriend...and the other guys in the school are cool with me but they arent really in my "inner circle"

Do you guys think I should lose some of these friends in order to have the social success I want? I mean they do say that in life you gotta make sacrifices to succeed...am I wrong? Of course not.

 

[Prodigy746]

NO! Dfinitely not

First of all, i dont think you are good enough friend because you want to leave your friends just so you can be with some girls that could possibly not want to date you due to your friends.

When i was in HS i used to be cool with everyone! Ofcourse i had my little group but i talked to everyone and i think that is the key. If you know pretty much everyone than that shows social proof... if you are as good looking as you say you are than you should have no problem pulling girls. You just have to ask for the number, your friends cant do that for you.

 

[Spike_the_Dragon]

Law 10

Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky

You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as disease. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.

-- The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene

 

[OneEyedJack]

They are only low on the social heirarchy, not poisonous influences.

Otherwise Law 10 should be applied.

 

[Bonafide]

NO! Dfinitely not

First of all, i dont think you are good enough friend because you want to leave your friends just so you can be with some girls that could possibly not want to date you due to your friends.

When i was in HS i used to be cool with everyone! Ofcourse i had my little group but i talked to everyone and i think that is the key. If you know pretty much everyone than that shows social proof... if you are as good looking as you say you are than you should have no problem pulling girls. You just have to ask for the number, your friends cant do that for you.

Oh ok thanks man. Yeah im pretty cool with everyone though, its almost by nature I mean everybody knows my name and they just like me. Some people I dont even know know me. but its just the fact that sometime the girls seem to hide there true emotions when there are more people around and I cant grasp why

 

[nismo-4]

Law 10

Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky

You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as disease. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.

-- The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene

Is there a site where I could find the other laws?

Law 49: Bros before hoes!

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Keep the friends you have. You may regret loosing them 1 day. But, there is no reason to have another group of friends. Being friends with all kinds of people is a plus. But, some people you want to avoid.

 

[Spike_the_Dragon]

Is there a site where I could find the other laws?

Law 49: Bros before hoes!

Read the book. Along with the likes of Dr. Haha Lung (also known as Dirk Skinner), Robert Greene is essential reading for anyone serous about learing or improving 'inner' game.

Go buy a copy right now!