So this Jamie girl who I'm friends with is leaving and I said "What you aren't even gonna say bye to me?" blah blah, she stops and we start talking. So I say she has to give me a high five and she says okay. So I play with that for a while, she high fives but I miss on purpose, just for the hell of makiing things interesting. Then I'm like "Okay, for real this time" and we do the high five. I'm like yeah and I hug her. So I swear when we hugged we were so close we could've kissed if we wanted to and she even randomly said "You look fabolous today" and I'm like thanks and say bye to her as she goes. So could I have gone for it?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Could I have gone for the kiss?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Rhoto
Master Don Juan
Yes. You probably could have tapped it.
Why didn't you?
Why didn't you?
Attractology
Don Juan
Yes.
Prodigy746
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Go elstud you stud .. ahhah
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
TheBaconator
Senior Don Juan
This is why everyone mocks eldud.
Young Juan
Senior Don Juan
You fumbled the snap, picked it up, fumbled the handoff, picked it up, and then you somehow found a way to Tony Romo/Kevin Dyson yourself at the one yard line.
This is pretty much the equivalent of fumbling the snap on a kneel down to force overtime, and the other team running it back all the way.
Just Do it
This is pretty much the equivalent of fumbling the snap on a kneel down to force overtime, and the other team running it back all the way.
Just Do it
Igetit!
Moderator
Could you have gone for the kiss? I would have to say no. The reason I say that is because of the first sentence in your thread. You said,"This girl Jamie who I'm friends with". Unless I'm mistaken, you have already established the kind of relatonship you have with this girl, and it's platonic.
If you had just recently met this girl, then maybe it would have been possible.
But if you have been friends with her for while, then no.
If you had just recently met this girl, then maybe it would have been possible.
But if you have been friends with her for while, then no.
sprint
Don Juan
That convo seems really awkward to me. I mean you ask her to say bye to you and then you ask her for a "high five"? I mean what the hell is that... A high five?! dude that's lame. Maybe this girl is just really ugly or desperate but I highly doubt you could have gone for the kiss. I bet she wanted to get out of there as fast as possible. It sounds like you forced the whole thing.
but what do I expect from someone in the school band...
but what do I expect from someone in the school band...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Fvck you.sprint said:
But seriously, band was a great way to meet a TON of cute girls
That's the only thing I'll miss about it.TheBaconator
Senior Don Juan
LMAO, 95% of his "successful" field reports end in the high 5. It's his trademark move.sprint said: