"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Could i get some help..haha

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Some background information,

Girl at church (haha, meh) anyway met her a week or so ago, our church has this youth group or whatever thing where its pretty much a gathering of similar aged people and we just play some sports or get together and do some crap. (sounds corny i know, but meh it works) Anyway after some general introductions theres the 'ask the new person questions' bit, at the time i honestly couldn't be all that bothered going about it all suave and stuff so i just asked her how old she was and if she had a boyfriend, (this was in front of the group, dunno may or may not have been a stupid move but i got the info anyway)

Fast track a few weeks and shes talking with a bunch of girls and i don't really know them, either way again from a lack of sense i walked up and said, 'hey i never got your number, what was it again?' and held out my phone. The girls kind of stare at me and then follows this pretty awkward silence, i was thinking "oh **** me, that was stupid." But then, the ****ing hot 25yr old girl comes to me (she was in the group) and takes my phone from me and gives me her number, i got it, then called her back while still standing with the group of girls to give her mine. THEN the girl i initially asked (for her number) says something like, 'here, i'll give you mine as well.' Then follows a number of other numbers from the girls present. Anyway the girl i asked for her number initially, knows pretty much i like her. (btw that whole situation probably only worked out that decently cause they were pretty nice people- contrary to the all girls are *****es)

I'm also pretty sure the hot 25yr old gave mer her number to break the silence and give me a break or something. (she's a pretty cool woman) Anyway ****ed up situations aside i have her number and despite how NOT smooth and not Don Juan the whole process was, i have the girls number. Also, i'm not in for a quick **** or anything, kind of just looking for a relationship at the moment.

So...what do i do now? how can i control the situation and or make the situation work best in my favour.

btw. found out she goes to my university, which is a bonus i guess.

pretty much a SOS for wtf do i do now.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i'm like serious ay..no one has anything to say? .. :cry:
 

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dude why you asking. Just hit the girl up, make some flirty convo and ask her out. Is it that hard?

Just don't do any ***** sh1t like talk to her on the phone for HALF A DAY. Make it interesting, make it short, and most importantly ...LEAVE AN IMPACT.
 

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He shoots... he scores... multiple times!

haha... funny story, but yeah, like the poster above said, just call her and ask her out. If she says yes, cha-ching! (thats the sound of a cash register) if she says no, well thank her for saving your time!

Really though, if you're nervous about calling her, then imagine what it'd be like on a date with her. Just dont' go with the outcome being your main goal, like you said shes' a 'new person' to your youth group so just go out, get to know her and have fun.

If you worry too much about the outcome or what to say, chances are you'll screw yourself over.

So go get 'em and enjoy yourself while you're doin it :up:

Go Tiger! haha
 

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hmm true, thanks for the input. Guess i was all hung up about the outcome and forgot what was important!

edit: ask her out to lunch?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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