"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Cought myself becoming beta again...need some advice.

fuko2007

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Here is my problem guys, some of you remember posts about me crying over a girl etc and told me the folly of my ways. Well im not perfect yet but im getting closer to reaching DJ hood. Anyway ive been seeing this woman for a bit now, we have known each other for a while and have been spending alot of time togther lately. Well up untill 2 months ago we were having great sex good times etc. Now its not that she is growing distant or disintrested bc she still keeps making plans for us to go places out of town etc, but i have notcied a marked change in her attitude, i.e. grumpy very easy to set off etc. Now remember we ar NOT dateing , but in her mind she has me tied down and i should not do anything with other women etc.

Now i have noticed i have changed some myself, i.e. waiting around to do anything bc she might want to go or do something and just beeing to nice and around to often. So pretty much an AFC, my question is how could i turn this back around to the way it was i.e. revert back to my old self without upsetting this girl?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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sharkbeat

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I think deep down you already know the answer to this.

Yes, the path will lead her being angry at you, and potentially, either you never talk to each other again (sets you free), or she fvcks you wildly (in her attempt to control you again).
 

fuko2007

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Yeh, i figuer it will be either or, im hoping it will be the sex haha. Im not saying im perfect in anyway but i think she knows she wont do better in the context of i can always fvck and have lots of assets at my disposal ie boats land in the country to go hunt and ride around etc. Shes an older girl but none the less very good looking and would have no problem picking up guys around her age with more money and crap like that. But takes me to the question why does she choose me if she has so many options? ive seen how many guys chase her and know she has no shortage of options.
 

Bible_Belt

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She wants a younger man because it makes her feel younger. But she is realizing that you're probably not going to marry her, and that is making her feel old.
 

Scaramouche

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Dear Fuko,
She is just reverting to type....Spin Plates mate!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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