Corey Wayne line

[B0redandl0nely]

A girl I was dating for a few months all of a sudden claimed there was no connection because when she asked how I thought things were going, I would respond with one word answers like "good" and not open up. I did this because from day one I was fearful she would break up with me because I have self-esteem issues. She also claimed that I didn't seem like I was enjoying myself with her friends and family and the only reason why this was is because I suffer from depression.

Another true thing she mentioned was she was making all of the conversation. Everything she said was true because of my issues and I know I messed up because of them.

I came back with "no it's not like that at all. I think we have a great connection and you said so yourself (she did say that)." I suggested a date and said "me coming up to see you had nothing to do with being nice (she lives far away from me)." Last thing I said was "you're what I'm looking for" to which she said she's not sure she feels the same way and anymore and doesn't think we have much in common." None of that is true, she just doesn't know what's wrong with me.

After she said that, I said "well hit me up if you change your mind" which I think was a big fvcking mistake. I got brainwashed my Corey Wayne because of my low confidence.

My question is: do you think saying "well hit me up if you change your mind" made matters a hell of a lot worse.

And any chance she'll come back and anything I can do to help my case?

Responses appreciated.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Doesn't matter if you said that Corey Wayne line or not. Imo she seems checked out of the relationship and not very concerned about losing you.

Your best bet is to lay low and wait if she reaches out. In the meantime I would work on your self esteem issues, that seems to be the root of your problem.

 

[B0redandl0nely]

Unfortunately it's too late for that... I agree with you stringpuller...

 

[wifehunter]

Learn from your mistakes, and move on.

 

[B0redandl0nely]

Learn from your mistakes, and move on.

I hope she comes back cause I'm gonna improve myself and be ready

 

[B0redandl0nely]

And since I said "hit me up if you change your mind" does that mean I can't contact her after a month?

 

[Roober]

She lost respect for you. You don't make her pvssy tingle any more. Sorry bud, it's over...

Listen to the meaning of her words, not the actual words!

To answer your question, your response was good! Whether or not she responds will give you your answer.

Sounds like you need to seriously work on your inner game. You have been here 5 months, have you improved at all?

 

[B0redandl0nely]

I have improved. I dated this girl longer than other. I'm in college getting decent grades. I'm going to the gym. Do you think it's possible I can earn her respect back?

 

[B0redandl0nely]

She might have lost respect for this reason: I went to a club with her and her friends and she bounced early without saying goodbye. Nine days later I called her again and she told me what she told me. I prolly shouldn't have called but I'm needy and I have to work on that. It's gonna be hard to change my ways cause I'm 26

 

[Roober]

Don't take offense to this, but no you haven't.

Decent grades in college?
Exercising is good

Dating longer than others? That is certainly no benchmark for improvement.

The proof of your weakness is in your words. And if you looked at Corey Wayne extensively, you would also know that he says just to walk and let her go. She may come back, she may not.

Your self-esteem is crap - work on that!

 

[wifehunter]

She might have lost respect for this reason: I went to a club with her and her friends and she bounced early without saying goodbye. Nine days later I called her again and she told me what she told me. I prolly shouldn't have called but I'm needy and I have to work on that. It's gonna be hard to change my ways cause I'm 26

How many times do you hit your thumb with a hammer, before you change positions?

That should tell you something.

You're young, plenty of girls will come and go. Try not to fix an already broken situation. Odds are, you'll return to the same patterns.

Move on, maybe she'll enter your life at a different point. If not, you've already moved on, anyway. If she does, you'll need to have a better frame.

Work on it!

 

[B0redandl0nely]

I'm not taking the L. I'm gonna perform alchemy on myself and transform. I will draw her to me because of my unbelievable transformation. Why do you think it's so fvcked up? I say fvck all those other beautiful women you speak of. I'll stay straight edge until I get her back. She's what I want.

 

[resilient]

Did something like it before. Maybe most people have, or maybe not. Not sure.

But cut the crap. Aim for more balance in your relationships with women.

Good song, @deesade!

OP.... I’ve gone that route before. You improve, do some great things that you’re proud of thinking it will rope an ex back in. It doesn’t. If she accepts breadcrumbs, a date, and a lay... great. The feels don’t last bud.

You can’t keep a steady LTR with a zombie.

Let this one go.

Self-improve, good.... but do it because you want to take care of yourself for you because you value who you are as a person (self-respect through and through) and not change thinking that will entitle you to your main plate or future plates.

 

[resilient]

Best sax i've had in a while.

 

[B0redandl0nely]

You couldn't be arsed to connect with her before. Now you want to devote your life to getting her back.

Notice the extremes in behaviour? It isn't healthy. She probably did the right thing in backing off.

No balance. Pushing her away for a long period, now setting yourself up for a long period of pulling her back in. Then you'll very probably push her away again.

But you will reframe that as something like being a romantic to glorify the behaviour, and further indulge.

Did something like it before. Maybe most people have, or maybe not. Not sure.

But cut the crap. Aim for more balance in your relationships with women.

I couldn't be arsed to connect with her before because I am bipolar and was on drugs. I'm clean now and believe it or not better

 

[B0redandl0nely]

My problem is I wanna contact her again in a couple of weeks but I said that stupid fvcking corey wayne line and now it's like I'm going back on my word if I hit her up. Any thoughts guys?

 

[Reykhel]

I hope she comes back cause I'm gonna improve myself and be ready

Fvck her and move on

Believe that when you go out new experiences are waiting you....cause they are

 

[B0redandl0nely]

Fvck her and move on

Believe that when you go out new experiences are waiting you....cause they are

No thanks