"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Core VS. Accessory

Jimbo2k

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My friend and I were arguing about this, and just seeing if maybe I should change my viewpoint.

Basically, I am a smaller than average guy ... 6'1, 160 LBS (smaller, weight wise).

Anyway, I work out and am making steady progress, but still have a weak core (legs,back,chest).

I was working out with this friend, him being bigger and stronger, and he was saying that concentrating on the core lifts (squat, deads, bench, rows ..etc..) is important, but I should not neglect accessory work either (arms,shoulders,abs).

So, being limited with time in the gym, should I focus on all the muscle groups (which would take time from my core time) or should I stick to the core exercises until I gain a stronger core and more mass ?

Thanks for any input
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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your core is legs, back, chest?
What is there left?

The compound lifts are the main thing, accessory work is for when you encounter a weaker point.
Like on your bench. What's harder? Getting it off the chest or locking out? If it's the former, chest supplementals! The latter? Tricep!
 

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I was looking for this thread, assuming I posted it in H&F or for some reason Anything else...... can the mods move this thread to H&F ? Thanks.

Mrs:
thanks for the reply, it was helpful.
And exactly, there isn't much left except for arms/back/abs. So should I forget about these muscle groups and throw them in when they start lagging (IE: your example?)
 

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Your shoulders and arms get hit pretty hard with compound exercises such as bench, military press, pullups, dips and to some extent, deadlift. If you want to work more on your abs, maybe try a few pullthroughs/leg raises/weighted crunches etc.

If you can squat and deadlift big numbers, your core isn't going to be small.
 
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