Cool to be friends with a girl that has a boyfriend?

[JMoneyINC.]

Here's some background information, I'll try to make it short and simple:

I'm in my second year of Med School at Baylor, and noticed this HB9 in my Microbiology class. After our first test, I approached her, asked her how she did, and started up some small talk. After that, she started to sit next to me and after class we would hang out and talk for awhile after.

After about a month and half of feeling her out, I asked if she was seeing someone, to which she replied she had a b/f. This whole revelation was cool with me seeing as I had a g/f at the time.

Another month passes, during which I took the time to brake up with my g/f (she was messing up my focus and was a mooch). This was brought up during one of our conversation's and I made a statement to her saying "if I meet a girl half as cool as you while I'm single, I'll be sure to snatch her up." I said this in a genuine manner (this girl is literally cooler then a lot of other HB's I've dated) not as some pick up line. I wouldn't try to skeem on some dude's girl, she made it clear she had a b/f, those weren't my intentions. However, we do flirt sometimes, it just comes natural to me, I don't try to do it.

So, after our last day of class, I asked her if she wanted to get a drink. She said yes, we go to the bar, hang out, and chill with some friends. Before we leave, she gave me her email and tells me to let her know what I'll be going over break.

Now hears the question, is it cool to be friends with a girl that has a boyfriend? Even if we sometimes flirt? The reason I want to be friends with this girl is A: she's an HB9, intelligent, and likes a lot of the same things I like, and B: i can almost guarantee she has some HB9's as friends.

For some reason I just feel guilty, I don't why. Any help would be appreciated, thanks in advance.

 

[f283000]

during one of our conversation's and I made a statement to her saying "if I meet a girl half as cool as you while I'm single, I'll be sure to snatch her up." I said this in a genuine manner (this girl is literally cooler then a lot of other HB's I've dated) not as some pick up line.

First of all let me translate what you said to her

"if I meet a girl half as cool as you while I'm single, I'll be sure to snatch her up." = "i'm afraid of telling you or make any moves to show how much I want you, but i'll say this since I can't hide my feelings forever (but i'm afraid to say the full truth). If i found someone like you i would snatch her up right away and just to cover my tracks to make it seem I don't really like YOU Specifically to stay safe and not possibly offend you"

You think women are stupid? They can tell you want them from a mile away. Don't think for 1 minute she didn't decipher that statement of yours. A high school girl with all f's for her report card could decipher that and so could a microbiology student!

Stop giving women compliments before they actually deserve them (and that's after they already been in bed with you).

There's nothing wrong with showing a woman you want her, but you don't do it in a way that makes you look like a wuss. If you want a woman you need to be aggressive.

What you need to do with this HB is change your gameplan 180 degrees. Rather than being her friend you need to work on attracting her.

Your game plan should be this: Step up the kino at full speed. The moment you see her everyday you touch her. Arm, shoulder, whatever. Light touches here and there. All throughout your conversations.

Introduce sexual topics to your conversations. Get her thinking about sex.

Get her thinking about the possibility of sex WITH YOU.

You see her so often that if you do this for a month consistently i'm sure you could get her to turn around as with most women if you keep at it.

 

[JMoneyINC.]

First of all let me translate what you said to her

"if I meet a girl half as cool as you while I'm single, I'll be sure to snatch her up." = "i'm afraid of telling you or make any moves to show how much I want you, but i'll say this since I can't hide my feelings forever (but i'm afraid to say the full truth). If i found someone like you i would snatch her up right away and just to cover my tracks to make it seem I don't really like YOU Specifically to stay safe and not possibly offend you"

You think women are stupid? They can tell you want them from a mile away. Don't think for 1 minute she didn't decipher that statement of yours. A high school girl with all f's for her report card could decipher that and so could a microbiology student!

Stop giving women compliments before they actually deserve them (and that's after they already been in bed with you).

There's nothing wrong with showing a woman you want her, but you don't do it in a way that makes you look like a wuss. If you want a woman you need to be aggressive.

What you need to do with this HB is change your gameplan 180 degrees. Rather than being her friend you need to work on attracting her.

Your game plan should be this: Step up the kino at full speed. The moment you see her everyday you touch her. Arm, shoulder, whatever. Light touches here and there. All throughout your conversations.

Introduce sexual topics to your conversations. Get her thinking about sex.

Get her thinking about the possibility of sex WITH YOU.

You see her so often that if you do this for a month consistently i'm sure you could get her to turn around as with most women if you keep at it.

Thanks for the reply but I don't think you totally understood my question, or I wasn't clear with presenting it.

The reason I was being a "wuss" per se was because I was being truthful with her, she really is that cool, and I wanted her to realize that. I wasn't aggressive because she has a boyfriend. I understood that, and didn't want be "that guy" trying to game on some dudes girl. Personally, the goal wasn't to fvck her at that point.

I guess the reason I feel guilty is because I feel like I'm gaming on this dudes girl unintentionally if that makes any sense? And like I said earlier, that's not what I'm about. Thanks again for the response man.

 

[Scion]

You can't be friends with a girl if you want her. So you have to ask yourself, do you want this girl or not. If you do want her then go for her, screw the bf. But if you can't stomach the thought of trying to "steal" her or are afraid you'll screw it up, then no you can't be friends with her, it'll eventually bite you in the ass.

On the other hand, if you don't want her, she's a genuinely cool girl, and you have no problem with the fact that you won't be a priority in her life then sure, go ahead and be friends with her.

Note: this is coming from a guy that has tried to be friends with girls he's wanted, it never works out.

 

[ENIGMA16]

You can't be friends with a girl if you want her. So you have to ask yourself, do you want this girl or not. If you do want her then go for her, screw the bf. But if you can't stomach the thought of trying to "steal" her or are afraid you'll screw it up, then no you can't be friends with her, it'll eventually bite you in the ass.

This is the rule. There is an exception. I have girls that have boyfriends that I won't go for but I flirt with, etc... just because I find it entertaining and it's a great ego fix. If these girls were single I'd go for them, but because of how each situation is, I don't feel like it'd be good to do.

Now, the only reason I'm able to do this is because I don't really give a sh!t. You clearly do, so you won't be able to do this.

 

[JMoneyINC.]

You can't be friends with a girl if you want her. So you have to ask yourself, do you want this girl or not. If you do want her then go for her, screw the bf. But if you can't stomach the thought of trying to "steal" her or are afraid you'll screw it up, then no you can't be friends with her, it'll eventually bite you in the ass.

On the other hand, if you don't want her, she's a genuinely cool girl, and you have no problem with the fact that you won't be a priority in her life then sure, go ahead and be friends with her.

Note: this is coming from a guy that has tried to be friends with girls he's wanted, it never works out.

Awesome man, thanks for your perspective and insight

 

[JMoneyINC.]

This is the rule. There is an exception. I have girls that have boyfriends that I won't go for but I flirt with, etc... just because I find it entertaining and it's a great ego fix. If these girls were single I'd go for them, but because of how each situation is, I don't feel like it'd be good to do.

Now, the only reason I'm able to do this is because I don't really give a sh!t. You clearly do, so you won't be able to do this.

Thanks for the insight, i appreciate the help.