"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Cooking for a women

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Should that be left for a women to cook for a man/man to cook for himself, or do you guys sometimes make exceptions when you cook for a women?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't buy into the feminist TV hype men are better cooks than women when they put their mind to it. I run circles around my fiancee in the kitchen, but she does most the cooking. however when we have company I always cook.
 

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30/70 basically? If you cook occasionally, she'll appreciate it and remember it, but dont cook to an overkill?


Im talking about for dating in general. Like if I have extra pasta laying around the house.

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GODDAMN 10 POST RULE!! I HATE UUUU...

What I was saying is.

Some women say men should cook for there women, bc its not the 50s anymore....etc it makes my mouth drop, its like ha ha how stuck up are you.

Other women I meet say im an old school type of women and I want to cook for my man but I will always appreciate it if I come home from a long day of work and I see a nice homemade meal made especially for me from you.

Yeah, I usually go for the second type :)

I have no problem cooking at all, no matter how much it may suck lol... but still if she puts in no effort, hardly cooks or helps me clean up after dinner, or shows any compassion in general, any area. Shes out of my life, like a swift kick in the ass.

Again im talking about DATING. Not fienece, not marriage.

If she comes to me, ill cook, if I go to her, she'll cook. Ill keep it simple in the beg, unless it gets serious, and maybe at a special occasion ill cook at her place, let her relax after a long day, then enjoy the night....

Sounds good?
 
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If you are a better cook than she is, I would recommend you do the cooking. I just want to eat good food lol, I really don't care who cooks it. Some things she cooks better than me.. she does Italian food pretty well actually. Soe things I do better than her, like fish and chicken based meals. Depends on what we want to eat basically on who cooks. Were have having chicken pasta tomorrow night, so I will cook, becuase I actually want it to be eatable lol, also becuase I don't use store made sauce, as I watch what I eat, and I make my sauce from scratch so it's pretty healthy, and it has to have the right seasoning to taste good.

I'm about the end result, not about how we get there when it comes to food., if she couldn't cook worth a damn I would have no problem cooking all the meals, well I would from a scheduling standpoint but young get the point.
 

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As a man, you want to get to a point in your life where women will freely volunteer to cook for you to try to win your affection. It's a notch down from PIMP level (where your game is so strong that women try to BUY your affection).

I'm not saying to not cook for women, but you should be focused on the broader picture. Getting to a point as a man where you are so attractive to women that they happily invite you over to a dinner cooked by them rather than you paying for dinner at a restaurant.

Don't take this act of affection lightly. With all the flaking going on, facebook, and the overall "busy lives" of modern women just the fact they are spending the time to cook for you says a great deal about the effectiveness of your game with them.

And I repeat, i'm not saying cooking for women is wrong but instead of thinking about cooking for them you should be thinking about how to get them to cook FOR YOU.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You don't cook for her. You cook because you like good food, and she's damn lucky you decided to let her taste it.
 

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If given a task provided we have equal footing, I'll do it better the majority of the time. If I want something done, and want it done right, I'm going to do it myself.

While I can prepare a better meal, I'd much rather have that time to do something more productive. But hey, if she can make something good to eat, I'll by all means let her, more time for me to do something else. But if I want something in particular that she can't do or isn't good enough, its easier to do it myself so that I get what I want.
 

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What's missing here is that when you cook for your girl, you are to a degree showing her that you are not the average guy and can fend for yourself whenever necessary.

I'm a great cook! My wife is however better and she loves to do it. She sees it as one of her responsibilities in our marriage. She's a little more traditional than you average flip flop, sweat pants wearin' generation "whatever" chick you see nowadays that doesnt know sh!t.

My girl gets up every morning and cooks me breakfast to take to work and most always has something cookin' by the time I get home. I appreciate that.
Every now and then, I'll tell her to take a break and that tonight is on me. She appreciates that as well.

Don't be afraid to cook for your woman once in awhile. If anything, it will make you more manly in her eyes.
 

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5string said:
She's a little more traditional than you average flip flop, sweat pants wearin' generation "whatever" chick you see nowadays that doesnt know sh!t.
EXACTLY.

I hate how girls these days have VERY little to offer. I'm eventually learning how to cook, and it'll make me a damn asset in a society of fast food pigs.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Vice said:
EXACTLY.

I hate how girls these days have VERY little to offer. I'm eventually learning how to cook, and it'll make me a damn asset in a society of fast food pigs.
+rep

Very well said Vice! You will be an asset, especially to yourself in learning to cook. I actually really like doing it. Here is a recipe for ya. Enjoy.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=174035
 
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