One subject that seems to be poorly understood is conveying sexuality and/or masculinity. Here are five points which I hope will clear up some misunderstandings.
1: We are NOT monkeys!
You are a human being and hopefully the females you are interested are also human beings.
The human being has evolved to be an incredibly intelligent and SOCIAL creature. The evolutionary advantage we have is being able to figure sh*t out and work together.
Too many guys seem to make the mistake in thinking that being a brute equates masculinity.
The image you have that men once clubbed women over the head and then dragged her back to the cage is just a joke. Our ancestors NEVER did that…
Embrace that testosterone by all means, but use it to power your higher (social and intellectual) abilities.
2: Keep your own energy.
Okay the “sexual state…”
It’s been covered by many how to feel that sexual state. I’m not going to go into it. What I’m going to mention here is what to do once you have that feeling of being one sexy bastard.
Don’t go oozing your “sexual state” all over the place. If you feel that buzz of male power in you balls hold it in your balls. If you feel it in your gut, keep it in your gut, if you feel it in your heart, keep it there.
Don’t try to make the girl feel it. Don’t try. Stop it.
Keep your energy.
Masculine energy isn’t some arrow with a rope on the end that you shoot at girls and then reel em in.
It’s your energy. Don’t try to make girls FEEL it. You’ll seem slimy and sleazy and desperate.
Hold onto your sexual energy. It is for YOU.
When it is buzzing in you it attracts girls coz they want to feel it. When you shoot it out the ladies say “thank you,” take it and walk away with it.
3. Escalate like you are salsa dancing.
In salsa the male leads and the female follows.
The mating dance is the same.
In salsa if the male cannot lead he is a bad dancer. If the female cannot follow she is a bad dancer. Furthermore if they can’t move in synchronisation they are dancing badly.
It’s more than just knowing the moves.
“Jay Jay, WTF are you talking about?!”
I’m talking about escalation.
So you, as the male, lead, you escalate, you take a step FIRST.
And then she follows.
Then you take another step.
And she follows.
Everytime she follows then you know that soon you will need to lead in another step.
If she doesn’t take the step, then chill the f*ck out. She’s being a bad dancer. If you keep trying to do steps and she’s not doing anything then you’ll look like a ****head.
If she doesn’t take the next step in escalation then step back, do the steps you’ve been doing before and then try to escalate to the next step a bit later. If she fails to take the step a third time then thank her for the dance and find a new partner.
No biggie, it’s just a dance.
It’s when you try to get ahead of yourself or when you expect the female to lead when she will stop enjoying the dance.
And as long as she is enjoying the dance she will join you on the next step.
4: The Masculine is attracted to the Feminine.
Okay we hear a lot how the feminine is attracted to the masculine but there is massive confusion about how to convey this masculinity.
Flip it on its head.
The ultimate expression of masculine energy is that it is attracted to and compliments the feminine.
Instead of concentrating on conveying your masculine energy, focus on your target’s femininity. This will bring your masculinity out naturally and allow a woman to feel and act like a woman.
If you have some pent up issues where you are disgusted or afraid of female sexuality then any woman you encounter WILL INSTINCTIVELY PICK UP ON THIS AND WILL NOT DISPLAY FEMININITY.
Is it any surprise that the guys going on about how women have become masculine keep meeting masculine women? Not at all; they are bringing it out in them by their actions.
As my Daddy told me “a man’s masculinity can be measured by how much he makes his women feel like a woman.”
5: Never depend on a woman.
The only thing you should ever NEED a woman for is to bare you sons.
Happiness, satisfaction, meaning, self esteem, ego, social standing, excitement, achievement etc etc should come from the external world.
You need to be in a position where you are happy with your life without women.
When you achieve this then masculinity will become natural. Being the prize will become natural, being confident will become natural. You will ooze mojo.
Now here is the most important point of this post. If you feel insecure about something, with woman, then that is your higher self telling you that you need to correct a fault.
For example if you feel that women won’t like you because you are overweight what you are really thinking is that YOU ARE NOT HAPPY WITH YOURSELF because you are overweight. Go lose those pounds but don’t do it to win babes, do it for you.
Once you have conquored your life then male energy will flow naturally.
So that’s about all I have to say. I’d love to hear some other ideas on this.
JJ
1: We are NOT monkeys!
You are a human being and hopefully the females you are interested are also human beings.
The human being has evolved to be an incredibly intelligent and SOCIAL creature. The evolutionary advantage we have is being able to figure sh*t out and work together.
Too many guys seem to make the mistake in thinking that being a brute equates masculinity.
The image you have that men once clubbed women over the head and then dragged her back to the cage is just a joke. Our ancestors NEVER did that…
Embrace that testosterone by all means, but use it to power your higher (social and intellectual) abilities.
2: Keep your own energy.
Okay the “sexual state…”
It’s been covered by many how to feel that sexual state. I’m not going to go into it. What I’m going to mention here is what to do once you have that feeling of being one sexy bastard.
Don’t go oozing your “sexual state” all over the place. If you feel that buzz of male power in you balls hold it in your balls. If you feel it in your gut, keep it in your gut, if you feel it in your heart, keep it there.
Don’t try to make the girl feel it. Don’t try. Stop it.
Keep your energy.
Masculine energy isn’t some arrow with a rope on the end that you shoot at girls and then reel em in.
It’s your energy. Don’t try to make girls FEEL it. You’ll seem slimy and sleazy and desperate.
Hold onto your sexual energy. It is for YOU.
When it is buzzing in you it attracts girls coz they want to feel it. When you shoot it out the ladies say “thank you,” take it and walk away with it.
3. Escalate like you are salsa dancing.
In salsa the male leads and the female follows.
The mating dance is the same.
In salsa if the male cannot lead he is a bad dancer. If the female cannot follow she is a bad dancer. Furthermore if they can’t move in synchronisation they are dancing badly.
It’s more than just knowing the moves.
“Jay Jay, WTF are you talking about?!”
I’m talking about escalation.
So you, as the male, lead, you escalate, you take a step FIRST.
And then she follows.
Then you take another step.
And she follows.
Everytime she follows then you know that soon you will need to lead in another step.
If she doesn’t take the step, then chill the f*ck out. She’s being a bad dancer. If you keep trying to do steps and she’s not doing anything then you’ll look like a ****head.
If she doesn’t take the next step in escalation then step back, do the steps you’ve been doing before and then try to escalate to the next step a bit later. If she fails to take the step a third time then thank her for the dance and find a new partner.
No biggie, it’s just a dance.
It’s when you try to get ahead of yourself or when you expect the female to lead when she will stop enjoying the dance.
And as long as she is enjoying the dance she will join you on the next step.
4: The Masculine is attracted to the Feminine.
Okay we hear a lot how the feminine is attracted to the masculine but there is massive confusion about how to convey this masculinity.
Flip it on its head.
The ultimate expression of masculine energy is that it is attracted to and compliments the feminine.
Instead of concentrating on conveying your masculine energy, focus on your target’s femininity. This will bring your masculinity out naturally and allow a woman to feel and act like a woman.
If you have some pent up issues where you are disgusted or afraid of female sexuality then any woman you encounter WILL INSTINCTIVELY PICK UP ON THIS AND WILL NOT DISPLAY FEMININITY.
Is it any surprise that the guys going on about how women have become masculine keep meeting masculine women? Not at all; they are bringing it out in them by their actions.
As my Daddy told me “a man’s masculinity can be measured by how much he makes his women feel like a woman.”
5: Never depend on a woman.
The only thing you should ever NEED a woman for is to bare you sons.
Happiness, satisfaction, meaning, self esteem, ego, social standing, excitement, achievement etc etc should come from the external world.
You need to be in a position where you are happy with your life without women.
When you achieve this then masculinity will become natural. Being the prize will become natural, being confident will become natural. You will ooze mojo.
Now here is the most important point of this post. If you feel insecure about something, with woman, then that is your higher self telling you that you need to correct a fault.
For example if you feel that women won’t like you because you are overweight what you are really thinking is that YOU ARE NOT HAPPY WITH YOURSELF because you are overweight. Go lose those pounds but don’t do it to win babes, do it for you.
Once you have conquored your life then male energy will flow naturally.
So that’s about all I have to say. I’d love to hear some other ideas on this.
JJ
