"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Conversational Skills?

MaxPayne

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If you barely know what to talk about in general?

Its just been happening with me I started to think how would i lead an interesting and entertaining conversation with ppl?


Any tips,advice,comments, even links to posts that might help would be highly appreciated!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ready123

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learn how to get rapport with people

1. Assume the other person will like you, feel friendly, be curious about them
2. Adopt the type of body language that will allow your friendly state to become contagious. Basically, smile and make eye contact as much as you can without wierding them out
3. Search for commonalities. Do this by asking questions or coldreading or sharing stories/thoughts that have to do with whatever you guys are talking about
4. When they start talking, go into active listening mode. This means let them blow their own horn, pay attention and just react to what they say without any agenda

You now have rapport
 

everywomanshero

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Well, entire books are devoted to the subject but if you live a really boring life where you're unhappy, it's going to be a real effort to have much conversation. On the other hand, if you're happy & excited about your life, you're going to come across as interesting and fun to talk to just talking about anything. You just have to trust that you're personality is worth sharing and do so, the more you hold back, the more mixed messages you will receive, and the more you'll doubt yourself. Being fake and making up a bunch of stories and trying to use weird cut downs is likely to make you seem like a weirdo which will then cause you to doubt yourself, don't do any of that stuff just be normal.
 
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