"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Mr.Fantastic

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Anybody got any active tips for conversation here? I stink at it. I dry up. Anybody got any activities that might help me improve. I am trying to talk to assistants in shops etc. Anybody got any other tips?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Mr.Fantastic said:
Anybody got any active tips for conversation here? I stink at it. I dry up. Anybody got any activities that might help me improve. I am trying to talk to assistants in shops etc. Anybody got any other tips?
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The best advice I could give you is TALK TO PEOPLE EVERYWHERE. Talk to guys as well as girls. Talk to all age groups.

Be the fun, friendly guy who talks to everyone. This is the sort of guy who gets laid!

Talk to people in shops, when waiting for the bus/train, when waiting in a queue or line, etc. Say something funny and make them laugh, or just some small talk and ask how their day is going or what they're up to today. Basically, don't be that silent guy who never talks to anyone. Stand out and be different.

If you get used to being a social guy, you will naturally be talkative with women, therefore more confident around them.

Hope that helps.
 
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Think of it as though you are a talk show host interviewing a guest. I recently realized that the things you say and questions you ask shouldn't be for the sake of actual information. Just for entertainment. This sounds wierd but it's the best way to go with people you aren't familiar with.

Do you ever listen to Public Radio?

A really good example of this is the Michael Feldman show on NPR when he talks to audience members. His job is to entertain the listener at home and he manages to do that by asking regular audience people about the quirks of mundane parts of their lives.

Pay close attention to their choice of words. If you can find an alternate meaning in them, take it instead of what they meant. I think it was John Cleese said, miscommunication can be the best form of humor. Don't even bother with crappy small talk responses like 'that's pretty good' or whatever, unless you really can't think of anything else to say. Try to relate what they say to a weird story or something that you know.
 
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