Conversation starters to start talking to girls you knew?

[s257rs]

Hi all, I've been out of high school for 3+ years and been single for a while. Since I would like to meet someone, I was thinking about talking to girls I sort of knew from my high school/s. I'm not the best sort of person for text game/s. I would like to message this girl I used to talk to a little bit in school but don't want to open up a message since it would feel weird. Any good conversation starters which will help to carry on rather than stalling. Instead of just "Hey, how's it going?" since that will just start feeling awkward after 10 minutes. Something that can start the conversation and help to carry the conversation on.

Thanks to anyone that can help since I'm bored of being single.

 

[Bingo-Player]

well i bumped into a chick that was in my year on friday night hadn't seen or spoken to her for 2 years but found that asking

"hey have you heard what ( insert mutual idiot ) is up to these days !?!"

seemed to work well for me

good luck

 

[TheGambino]

well i bumped into a chick that was in my year on friday night hadn't seen or spoken to her for 2 years but found that asking

"hey have you heard what ( insert mutual idiot ) is up to these days !?!"

seemed to work well for me

good luck

Nah I wouldn't recommend that one as a opener. Keep the focus on her, make a comment about her, you could bring up the idiot the first date but the first convo should be funny, flirty, light and about her or something that happened between you in the passed (positive offcourse)

goodluck bringing something up be creative and keep it fun and short

 

[Bingo-Player]

no not as an opener

use to take conversation to next level

OP states he dosent want to feel awkward after 10 mins

exploiting mutuals is the quickest easiest way to do this

 

[s257rs]

Thank you all for replying, I know it's one of those sort of questions where there is no real "opener" that will work but I get nervous sending the first message but after that I'm normally okay. I saw a article and one quote that stood out to me was "Hey, nice pic. How was your weekend?" but I would feel comfortable using this after a couple of days of talking. It's the first message to initiate the conversation I really need help with.

 

[gravityeyelids]

I mean unless you were good friends with her in high school...she's gonna know something is up just because you texted her out of the blue after like 3 years of not talking.

I mean think of it this way: if a girl you hardly talked to in high school randomly texts you after 3 years...you would think that was kind of strange wouldnt you? and you'd assume she was attracted to you and wanted to meet up.

This is not necessarily a bad thing. If she was attracted to you in high school or grew attracted to you since then (from hearing about you), then it really doesnt matter what you say...she is going to respond to any thing you send her, provided it's not super creepy or awkward.

If she wasnt/isnt interested in you, she'll either ignore you straight up...or she'll give you a generic polite response and probably ignore you soon after, or send one word replies until you stop texting.

Don't stress so much about your opener. I would probably use some callback humor to an inside joke or weird teacher you guys had. Something like "Okay this is completely random....but you'll never believe who I just saw at the bar!" She goes "blah, blah, who?", you go "That creepy old Mr.Smith we had for english". Not obviously this will only work if you guys were buddy buddy in that class and had a lot of good laughs...not if she was just some girl that sat two rows away that you thought was hot or never talked to.

Honestly dude....if you're just looking to get laid or date the hot girls you could never get in high school (which is a valid desire, dont get me wrong), hitting them up out of the blue is not the best way to go about it. If the girls you're talking about hitting up liked you in high school and you hung out with them at school or outside of school, then by all means, go for it.

Just be aware that randomly hitting up a girl you barely talked to can easily come off as creepy and random, UNLESS you know that she is/was attracted to you AND preferably, you guys were buddy-buddy way back when.

A safer bet would be to call up a whole group of friends that you're cool with (and that she has mutual friends with) and invite them to the bar for a mini-reunion of sorts. Once there, you ease into it, talk to her and ramp up your game.

 

[MOTU]

I have used "I saw someone at (wherever) today that looked so much like you I actually went up and started talking to them. You should have seen the look on their face they has no idea what was going on hahaha. So how have you been?"

 

[VikingKing]

Real easy. "hey its been a long time, how have you been or what have you been up to" Smile (confidently), make good eye contact. Then change the subject.