Ok, I am not sure wether this is the right place to post something like this but ahh well.
I am a healthy clean cut guy who takes care of himself. I have a college diploma, and I do volunteer work occasionally. While I may not have the physical attractiveness that make women swoon whenever I am in their presence, I have had my share of women who thought I was 'cute' as well. So for all intents and purposes, I should have no problems finding women to talk to that are attracted to me.
There is one small problem. You see, while I am naturally shy to begin with (although I have been slowly improving on that), my main problem lies in the form of an erratic speech disorder. During conversations, ill go through phases where ideas come into my head in droves, causing me to talk really fast so I can get what is in my head out because a few seconds later my thoughts hit a brick wall and I end up not thinking of the right words to say. For example my conversations usually end up being like this: "blahblahblahblahblah.....um blahblahblahblah.......um......blahblahblah". Ironically this is also how I write, which leads me to believe that its the thought impulses that is the problem.
Now here is the wierd part. I mentioned earlier that my speech problem was erratic and thats exactly what I meant. You see sometimes I can go for more than a month and be able to talk fine, where other times I stumble upon my words on a daily basis. For some reason alcohol and weed have a somewhat positive effect on my speech as well, meaning that my thoughts are more of a steady constant nature rather than fast though patterns followed by slow thought patterns. Unfortunately I dislike weed and I certainly cannot be drunk all the time
As you can see, this poses a problem with my confidence, not only with talking to women but to people in general. I have been practicing a slower rate at which I converse, but it does take a lot of concentration to maintain it. I know that there are some of you out there in similar situations so if you have any advice, I certainly welcome it.
I am a healthy clean cut guy who takes care of himself. I have a college diploma, and I do volunteer work occasionally. While I may not have the physical attractiveness that make women swoon whenever I am in their presence, I have had my share of women who thought I was 'cute' as well. So for all intents and purposes, I should have no problems finding women to talk to that are attracted to me.
There is one small problem. You see, while I am naturally shy to begin with (although I have been slowly improving on that), my main problem lies in the form of an erratic speech disorder. During conversations, ill go through phases where ideas come into my head in droves, causing me to talk really fast so I can get what is in my head out because a few seconds later my thoughts hit a brick wall and I end up not thinking of the right words to say. For example my conversations usually end up being like this: "blahblahblahblahblah.....um blahblahblahblah.......um......blahblahblah". Ironically this is also how I write, which leads me to believe that its the thought impulses that is the problem.
Now here is the wierd part. I mentioned earlier that my speech problem was erratic and thats exactly what I meant. You see sometimes I can go for more than a month and be able to talk fine, where other times I stumble upon my words on a daily basis. For some reason alcohol and weed have a somewhat positive effect on my speech as well, meaning that my thoughts are more of a steady constant nature rather than fast though patterns followed by slow thought patterns. Unfortunately I dislike weed and I certainly cannot be drunk all the time
As you can see, this poses a problem with my confidence, not only with talking to women but to people in general. I have been practicing a slower rate at which I converse, but it does take a lot of concentration to maintain it. I know that there are some of you out there in similar situations so if you have any advice, I certainly welcome it.