Conversation Problems...

[Menime]

When talking with my g/f i try my best with conversation but she doesnt put much into the conversation i have to start all the topics of conversation. and i find problems thinkin of so many things to talk about.

and also she cant make a decision... ever.. i ask her does she want to do such a thing and she says something on the lines of 'im not fussed, whateva u want to do' 'were do u want to go'


What u think?

 

[Drow]

Welcome to the world of man..

In most cases your going to have to decide what to do when it comes to yalls entertainment. Whether it be choosing where and what to eat, or whatever. That is the man's job. You have to be decisive. You are the man in the relationship, right? Pull up your pants and make some decisions.

As far as conversing don't overthink it. Just talk to her about anything and everything. What she did for the day, what her thoughts are about something, whatever. Theres a lot of stuff about this, do a search.

 

[Evil-Rom]

What Drow said + open ended questions.

 

[elguato]

i dunno about u man, but id never go out with a girl with whom i cant keep a conversation flowing, i ****ing hate that.. when i meet girls and the girl turns out to be a nogo on a convo i never ever talk to em, or if they call me, i tell em u know what i dont wanna talk and say bye bye

 

[AmgineEX]

RE

I have the same deal going on with my gf and we get along very well and have been together for over a year. She'll say along the line of "lets do something" and i used to cater and think up of all the ideas. Lately, i gave up on that and just tell her to plan something if she wants to go out because whatever i think she doesnt wanna do (movies, mini golf, bowling etc). Usually it works pretty well. Conversation wise, we talk about everything, I'm off the college so it's going to be a long distance relationship but we're going to try and keep it working. Talking with your gf shouldnt be a chore, it should be enjoyable as long as you don't talk about menial stuff all the time. Sometimes it'll feel like you're sick of listening and bored, jus listen with one ear and cater a little bit, it's healthy for the relationship. A lot of times, my gf will tell me "i can't believe you remembered that! I told you that a long time ago.", those moments are priceless to her because she knows you care; something that seems petty to you might be very important to her. It could be something as simple as the type of dog she likes or her favorite band when she was in 4th grade. Anyways, i digress, good luck with your gf.