"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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sandinista

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Hey all.
I'm working in warehouse / factory place at the moment, & the thing is.. i can't really talk with anyone.

I know a 'don juan' should be confident & talkative with everyone, but i'm just no good in this job.

The people there playfully slag each other off all the time.
For Example:
mike: "hello you fat ****"
Jim: "**** you you ugly ****"

& so it goes. thats just not me. Every other word they say is a swear word, & they're the most racist, sexist, homophobic biggots i've met.

When i do talk to them, & i use some big words they always give me a funny look. I don't really have anything in common with these people. They're older than me & complain about everything, & talk about gardening, fishing, old music, stuff i know nothing, or care about.

but the fact that i'm the 'quiet one' is getting me down.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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diablo

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Does your day consist of doing nothing but going to work and coming straight home without any further human interaction? If you can't talk at work because of the environment, so be it. A DJ doesn't have to be a chatty little girl all the time, either. :p There are plenty of places to go after work to meet and talk to people...
 

squirrels

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Eh, grow up and deal with it. You can't expect everyone to be perfect. Old rednecks like that tend to run their mouths. If you don't have **** to say, just sit back and listen to them talk...you'll get a good laugh out of it when you reflect on the dumb stuff they say later. :D

I used to work construction...I was the "quiet guy." I'd talk when I had something to say, like when there was real conversation going on. Other than that, I kept my mouth shut for the most part.

Be secure with yourself and no one will **** with you. If they start riding you just laugh at them and tell them to shut the f**k up. :D It's all in fun...jobs like that can be monotonous and depressing without some kind of verbal horsing around.
 

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:D

I so know the wankers you mean. They're everywhere.

I had a conversation about this with a freidn the other day. He's a quiet and decent guy but I think one day he's going to hit someone really hard. He nearly did last time... and got promoted!

I'm afriad I've never managed to get away from them either.

I did get a job in a computer warehouse. The guys were younger.....

younger versions of the older wankers who work in those places.

The wierd thing is, where did all these people come from? - they were at work while you were at school, college and Uni. Then you go to work and all of a sudden the world is crap.

I'm out of work at the moment and I too can't bear to go back to seeing these wankers day out again.

If you can get a career plan, even if I means cutting hours down, working elsewhere parttime or sweating over a CV... said the man who is trying to do exactly this.
 

noPride

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Get a new job! If your an intellectual guy why the hell are you working in a factory? To build your muscles? If your a "jon juan" why dont you work in a place with lots of females ?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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diablo

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Perhaps he likes the money. There's no requirement on your way to becoming a DJ for working in a female-rich environment. If you happen to work in one, or land a job in such a place, excellent. If not, there are about... 3 billion females on the earth at any given time. That makes for a lot of conversation to be had. :p
 
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