Conversation becoming too much of a routine

[Jariel]

Maybe some of you can relate to this, but for the past few months I'm finding that my conversation with new people is becoming very robotic. I've spoken to so many women this past year, asking the same questions, following the same formula that it feels so scripted.

At one time I could talk to someone and really build a strong rapport. I'd enjoy hearing what they had to say, I'd love getting into debates and learning about them and I think my enthusiasm showed and was a big factor in attracting women and my charismatic personality.

My conversations with women are much the same offline as they are online. What do you do for work? What do you do for fun? How long you been single? What movies do you like? etc etc. I'll throw in some comments relating to their answers and they'll often bounce the questions back at me but it's feeling more like an interview than a conversation.

Then I have my humour routine where I set myself up to tell some funny anecdotes. I also have my sexual routine where I set them up with some light innuendos and build the tension. Then I go into my sex talk script.

I've tried varying what I'm saying. I'm changing the questions I'm asking, but the problem isn't so much what I'm saying, but my lack of interest. At one time I'd go on a date and magic would happen, these chicks would think I am amazing and we had some kind of spiritual connection, but the last dates I've been on have felt boring, cold and perfunctory. They seem very keen physically, but there's just no rapport going on there.

Surely some of you guys, especially the PUAs, must feel this way from time to time. I really want to break this cycle and be more natural and charismatic, the way I used to be before I started dating so many women.

 

[Crissco]

Im in the same boat bro. Especially with POF, then the date. Brining them to the backyard, movie then my room. Same **** with a different girl.

Back in the day before I created my own "routine" I used to just say whatever, if it worked it worked, it didnt, it didnt.

What ive been doing lately is ALOT more cold approaches but its still the same thing, with the same routine that works almost everytime...

One thing is try to do is work more then one woman at once, talk to 3 at a time so you keep your brain guessing and going from one to the next, you wont have time for a routine and your natural wittiness with just come out on its own.

Keep me posted

 

[Scars]

I know the morality DJ's will sh!t on me for this, but try going out and making up your own "character" and completely lying about who you are and what you do. I've been doing that lately and it's actually really fun.

I'm only 21 and I got two girls at the club to believe that I had two kids. I talked about my oldest "Sophie" and my other one "James" that was on the way. Told them how much I loved my kids blah blah, told them I worked for a taxi cub company LOL, and just a bunch of other bullsh!t. Then I moved the topic to some spirituality sh!t, got them to share their paranormal stories etc... Pretty interesting. I didn't think either of them were cute, and had no intention of bedding them, was just kind of drunk and having fun, but they wanted to exchange numbers before we "separated" so we did. Never heard back from either one, but you can expect that from any chick nowadays.

But yeah.

Either that, or spice it up a bit. Bring up some crazy ass topics that you only talk to your good friends about. Just jump right into it. Bring up something you are passionate about, that way you KNOW you will come off charismatic. There's got to be something you love talking about, other than yourself, I mean.

-Scars