Conundrum

[Billy_Badass]

Gentleman:

I need some motivation. I have better then average, but not necessarily out of this world game. I have dated a girl in an open relationship for quite some time now. We started off fairly well. I dated around, she dated around. I didn't really sieze too much opportunity, but I had a couple during our first couple of months. As time went on, emotions got involved. We are still open, but its no **** buddy situation.

Because of my emotions for her, I have not dated around while she has. Don't worry about this tooooooo much now, I don't get jealous or insecure about any of her men (or women). I feel no intimidation by any of my competition, and she knows it. The problem is, knowing that I have emotional ties to this woman, I feel its unfair to date others... I told you this was a conundrum.

Its not like I would feel it would be cheating, its not at all. I just don't want to deal with ditching the girl, after I am finihsed. I guess I don't like using women for sex, and not telling them. I am bluntly honest, and unashamed of my intentions. Its just part of who I am. So I feel trapped in a sort of accidental, one sided commitment. Suggestions please?

Also note that seduction for me takes longer. I don't land one night stands, I drag things out a bit, and make the girls beg for it. Its the only way I have been successful in game.

 

[Aaron B]

I want to address your final statement first.

This is my style as well. I have NEVER been a guy who got a lot of one night stands. But even when I was a clueless AFC, I was able to get into LTR's.

I'm a huge believer in making the girl beg for it. Its so much more satisfying to me than just taking some ***** home from the bar and banging her right away.

That being said: what is the purpose of your open relationship? Are you getting anything but sex out of the deal?

For me, the big breakthrough came when I realized that without a clear goal, I cannot succeed. But once you clearly define a goal, it is not only possible, but probable that it will come to fruition.

What you need to figure out is: What do I want? What do I truly want out of my relationships?

Its obvious you feel stuck in your current relationship. Who's idea was it to be in an open relationship? I have to wonder about her interest level if you proposed this and she agreed.

You owe this girl nothing. If you want out, you don't need to spare her feelings. She would drop you in a second if it suited her needs. You know I'm right on that one.

 

[Raikojo17]

You owe this girl nothing. If you want out, you don't need to spare her feelings. She would drop you in a second if it suited her needs. You know I'm right on that one.

agreed. she's probably just using u as a crutch to hang on to so that when her dating slow down she doesnt feel like such a loser.

and when she finds someone better, she can safely drop u and go to the next guy without being alone

why would u get feelings for a girl who doesnt even have feelings enough for u to be in a real relationship instead of a F buddy relationship? the point of those relationships is nothing more than just short term gradification and ego boasts. if u want to experiment, then u shouldnt be in a relationship.

 

[Serialized3]

What I'm more freaked out by is a girl that's having sex with you with no emotional attachment. Is this chick republican or something?

 

[Billy_Badass]

Well, I do agree with much of what you say, but in regards to her feelings about me dating other women, I couldn't care less. Its the feelings of all the girls that will not accept my way of life. And yes, it is more then sex, else I wouldn't pose such a question. If all of it is just ****ing, I wouldn't really have a problem.

I just get stuck on dating women, when I know I love one already... its ****ed up really.

And yes, its satisfying to turn a girl down for sex three times, until they rip off their clothes and practically rape you!

 

[Billy_Badass]

And it would be notable to mention that she wouldn't keep me around unless she wanted me around. She blows off her guys for me all the time. I have no insecurity in the relationship I am in, I just want to motivate myself to explore other opportunities without this strange guilt I have.

I flirt with girls until I know I could land thier numbers, then I just ****ing stop. Imagine having total liscense to **** any girl in the world issued to you straight from your LTR, and not being able to use it because you don't want to deal with dumping the girls and making them feel bad for being just a good lay.

 

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using women for sex

I loathe this brainwashed bullsh!t phrase, should be a mandatory 5 day jail sentence or on the spot fine to any retard dumb enough to buy into its nonsensical double standard of logic .

Its the feelings of all the girls that will not accept my way of life.

Ahh the romantic fantasy type thinking that only a male brain could fully believe has merit....... your player ways your a tourist, girls OWN the royalties to that way of life.

Open your eyes mate a hard pill to swallow yes, nice user name though.

 

[Billy_Badass]

I guess my mindset is prolly why I haven't had much luck at one night stands... perhaps I have just adopted a self-limiting belief. I just need to get the hell over it I guess. Thanks for the harsh feedback.

I should keep in mind that she doesn't have this problem, I do. I guess I'll start looking like a ***** if I don't explore other opportunities. Might flare up a little extra passion if I remind her that I can get women too. Twice the *****... god... what is my ****ing problem. I guess I just need to go out, and have fun.

I don't owe any woman, any explanation of my dating lifestyle, unless I am committed, which I am not. Thanks for the kick in the ass (.)(.).