Controlling Your Own State - ****in Important

[Rafa]

So, a lot of people here have a lot of trouble with being in their head too much when they're out... You need to remember that YOU, and only you, control your own state. Its cool if your environment is giving you good vibes and making you happier, but ultimately, your environment should NEVER have control over your state. In other words, dont let outside stimuli effect you negatively. Only an AFC allows outside stimuli to negatively affect his inner state. Instead of pouting and saying "**** this", you need to work on not letting it affect you at all. Maintain your positive energy and you will end up happier... and what are we alive for if not to be happy?
This is relevant to game because girls will see that you are secure and are not in need of outside stimuli to be happy. Instead of worrying about all of the numerous little techniques, just maintain your positive state NO MATTER WHAT. This will ultimately make you become more and more at peace with yourself... and why wouldnt she like (or hook up with) somebody that is completely at peace with himself? I find that these techniques, while important, only work while your in a positive state. Furthermore, they even kind of stress me out... what type of technique should I use here?? how can i insert kino into this interaction??
**** THAT. Be happy and give off a positive vibe... this is sooo important. People get into game ultimately in order to become happier... but in order to have game you need to already be happy... so BE happy. If somebody disses you, just continue vibing positively and either ignore them or laugh it off. **** it, your opinion is the only one that should matter to you.
-RAFFFF

 

[Mike32ct]

That's like the holy grail of the game. Great post.

 

[Rafa]

Thankyou kind sir

 

[st_99]

let me play devils advocate.

how do you maintain a positive state when you havn't been laid in a long while and the last 10 numbers flaked out on you?

 

[BeDJ]

let me play devils advocate.

how do you maintain a positive state when you havn't been laid in a long while and the last 10 numbers flaked out on you?

Indifference, you will have bad streaks here and there. Don't worry about it, control the factors that you can.

 

[SeymourCake]

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-e2cc3e4fW9E/UCEWjPhbh2I/AAAAAAAAD7s/ppLn8MLn6t8/s640/I+want+happiness.jpg

 

[Rafa]

let me play devils advocate.

how do you maintain a positive state when you havn't been laid in a long while and the last 10 numbers flaked out on you?

You havent been laid in a long while because all you think about is how you havent been laid in a long while and therefore youre afraid to be as aggressive and confident as you would be if you had 30 virgins in your bed. Just keep going at it dude, open as many sets as possible and Im sure youll have some success

 

[Trump]

Indifference, you will have bad streaks here and there. Don't worry about it, control the factors that you can.

The problem with being "indifferent" is it doesn't lead to anywhere. If you ask 10 girls out and 10 girls reject you, you could be "indifferent, non chalant, don't care, their loss, Im the prize."

Yet all 10 girls can't be wrong. Either your approach isn't working, your clothes arent appealing, you are too aggressive, you are not presentable etc. You may think they are wrong in rejecting you, but instead of being indifferent, find out what why and work on it. The guys who are successful with women have a certain formula and reuse it over and over, they guys who aren't dont know it or don't care to work towards it.

 

[VladPatton]

Depending on where you approach, yes, all 10 women can reject you, but I do understand your point. You're better off approaching 2 that show interest.

 

[BeDJ]

The problem with being "indifferent" is it doesn't lead to anywhere. If you ask 10 girls out and 10 girls reject you, you could be "indifferent, non chalant, don't care, their loss, Im the prize."

Yet all 10 girls can't be wrong. Either your approach isn't working, your clothes arent appealing, you are too aggressive, you are not presentable etc. You may think they are wrong in rejecting you, but instead of being indifferent, find out what why and work on it. The guys who are successful with women have a certain formula and reuse it over and over, they guys who aren't dont know it or don't care to work towards it.

We're talking about flakes, which we have very little control over. They may found a more attractive, richer guy, went back to their ex, grandma in a motorcycle accident, etc. I've had plenty of women flake/pass up dates without rescheduling. I would simply delete their number, yet some would ask me out a week later. Either they got nothing to do, got flaked on themselves or actually like you. Women make mistakes as much as we do. Nothing in life goes as planned and we are not special snowflakes(as much as we want to believe.). Just enjoy the experience, don't let it make you become bitter.