Psycho`Sexual
Don Juan
Hello.
(this is the sequel to http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&postid=338754 )
Have you ever met a person who said something similar to “Oh god damnit! I’ll go and pick up <name of other person>!” and then you might ask “Why?” only to get a response of “Because, I’m their family member, and I love them.”
This always made me wonder, “If you love them, then why are you so angry?”
The reason is because they are not experiencing LOVE at all. They think since they are family, they have to “love” that person, and if they did love them, then they would have to act in this particular fashion. (Being caring and what not)
Although a lot more people are constantly learning what Love is, and learning to experience it, there are still many people who do not have this understanding of how giving they E-Power means getting more in return.
For me, being around people like this snaps me out of my lovely mystical experience of life with LOVE.
Instantly I return to trying to fight the others for E-Power.
And the fascinating thing is, each of us has our own battle strategy. These are called unconscious control dramas.
These control dramas are heavily encouraged on these forums. All of the “techniques” used to do this or that, bumping people off pedestals, NLP, etc.
There are 4 control drama types lets discuss these.
First, lets talk about a control drama called the Interrogator.
This type of person sets up a drama of asking questions and probing into another person’s world in order to find faults, or something wrong. Once they do, they criticize this aspect of life. If this succeeds, the other person will soon become self-conscious around the interrogator and pay attention, trying to figure out what the interrogator is thinking or doing, in order avoid doing something wrong. This way, maybe the interrogator won’t notice the “fault.” This psychic deference gives the Interrogator the E-Power he desires.
When an interrogator is a very strong influence on someone, they might develop a control drama known as aloofness.
This person sets up a drama where they remain very vague and mysterious in everything. This causes people to give them attention, in order to satisfy their curiosity. Thusly, the aloof person gets his desired E-Power by withholding certain aspects, causing people to be drawn into him.
Thusly, if an aloof person is a substantial influence on some ones life, then to get the E-Power they desire from the aloof, they need to become an Intimidator!
This type of person gets his E-Power from being aggressive and abusive, causing the victim to be afraid, thus paying attention to what the Intimidator is doing, and feeding into their E-Power.
If the intimidator is a strong influence, then the person might develop the control drama known as “poor me.”
When there is an aggressive and abusive person controlling you, you might try to appeal to their guilt side. If you seem miserable enough, they might feel bad and stop abusing you. In this way, a poor me person gets their E-Power from making people feel guilty and aware of their problems, paying them attention and sending their E-Power field their way.
However, if being a poor me doesn’t prevent the intimidator from taking your energy, one might have to become aggressive right back, and fight off the intimidator that way. Thus an intimidator can create another intimidator.
A poor me can also create an Interrogator, since a person might get sick of feeling bad for a person, and decide to pry into their life to make them feel bad about themselves. This way, they poor me would stop complaining to the interrogator, but in fact become self-conscious and try to hide their faults.
You can probably see how this all works by now, and I’m sure you can even classify several people you know into these different groups.
The trick is to find out which group YOU fit into. Although most people tend to use more than one control drama, there is one that they use most often.
It is your duty to find out which control drama YOU use. After you figure it out, you will try to become conscious of the times you use this control drama. Hence, using a control drama will be something you become aware of, and will be able to stop.
Eventually the control drama will stop being UNCONSCIOUS, and become CONCSIOUS.
Then, when this happens, you can make a conscious decision about not using the control drama.
(this is the sequel to http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&postid=338754 )
Have you ever met a person who said something similar to “Oh god damnit! I’ll go and pick up <name of other person>!” and then you might ask “Why?” only to get a response of “Because, I’m their family member, and I love them.”
This always made me wonder, “If you love them, then why are you so angry?”
The reason is because they are not experiencing LOVE at all. They think since they are family, they have to “love” that person, and if they did love them, then they would have to act in this particular fashion. (Being caring and what not)
Although a lot more people are constantly learning what Love is, and learning to experience it, there are still many people who do not have this understanding of how giving they E-Power means getting more in return.
For me, being around people like this snaps me out of my lovely mystical experience of life with LOVE.
Instantly I return to trying to fight the others for E-Power.
And the fascinating thing is, each of us has our own battle strategy. These are called unconscious control dramas.
These control dramas are heavily encouraged on these forums. All of the “techniques” used to do this or that, bumping people off pedestals, NLP, etc.
There are 4 control drama types lets discuss these.
First, lets talk about a control drama called the Interrogator.
This type of person sets up a drama of asking questions and probing into another person’s world in order to find faults, or something wrong. Once they do, they criticize this aspect of life. If this succeeds, the other person will soon become self-conscious around the interrogator and pay attention, trying to figure out what the interrogator is thinking or doing, in order avoid doing something wrong. This way, maybe the interrogator won’t notice the “fault.” This psychic deference gives the Interrogator the E-Power he desires.
When an interrogator is a very strong influence on someone, they might develop a control drama known as aloofness.
This person sets up a drama where they remain very vague and mysterious in everything. This causes people to give them attention, in order to satisfy their curiosity. Thusly, the aloof person gets his desired E-Power by withholding certain aspects, causing people to be drawn into him.
Thusly, if an aloof person is a substantial influence on some ones life, then to get the E-Power they desire from the aloof, they need to become an Intimidator!
This type of person gets his E-Power from being aggressive and abusive, causing the victim to be afraid, thus paying attention to what the Intimidator is doing, and feeding into their E-Power.
If the intimidator is a strong influence, then the person might develop the control drama known as “poor me.”
When there is an aggressive and abusive person controlling you, you might try to appeal to their guilt side. If you seem miserable enough, they might feel bad and stop abusing you. In this way, a poor me person gets their E-Power from making people feel guilty and aware of their problems, paying them attention and sending their E-Power field their way.
However, if being a poor me doesn’t prevent the intimidator from taking your energy, one might have to become aggressive right back, and fight off the intimidator that way. Thus an intimidator can create another intimidator.
A poor me can also create an Interrogator, since a person might get sick of feeling bad for a person, and decide to pry into their life to make them feel bad about themselves. This way, they poor me would stop complaining to the interrogator, but in fact become self-conscious and try to hide their faults.
You can probably see how this all works by now, and I’m sure you can even classify several people you know into these different groups.
The trick is to find out which group YOU fit into. Although most people tend to use more than one control drama, there is one that they use most often.
It is your duty to find out which control drama YOU use. After you figure it out, you will try to become conscious of the times you use this control drama. Hence, using a control drama will be something you become aware of, and will be able to stop.
Eventually the control drama will stop being UNCONSCIOUS, and become CONCSIOUS.
Then, when this happens, you can make a conscious decision about not using the control drama.
