"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Contradicting bible advice, can anyone elaborate?

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Was reading How to eliminate desire in the bible and came across this
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Rule 1 of the Tao of Steve: Eliminate your desires. If your out with a girl and you are thinking of getting laid, you're finished. A woman can smell your agenda.

When you interact with a woman and she senses no desire in you, it does a lot of things. First of all, she will feel more comfortable with you. Secondly, by her sensing you are not lusting after her, it causes her to become confused as to why you are not lusting after her like every other guy does: it makes you stand out. By not overtly desiring her, you become a challenge. Because of the affront to her ego, she all of a sudden wonders how she can make you become more attracted to her or at least notice her. Finally, you will more easily have fun and be more fun to be around which will make women respond more positively towards you.

This got me thinking about something that was mentioned in the book of POOk about how we shouldn't be afraid of our desire and sexuality and how this separates the feminine men from the real men and I started thinking does this mean on a first date i should eliminate my kino and and my desire by listening to the eliminate desire post or listen tothe POOk post.....maybe I've interpreted wrong but Just a bit confused that's all
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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When you interact with a woman and she senses no desire in you, it does a lot of things. First of all, she will feel more comfortable with you. Secondly, by her sensing you are not lusting after her, it causes her to become confused as to why you are not lusting after her like every other guy does: it makes you stand out. By not overtly desiring her, you become a challenge. Because of the affront to her ego, she all of a sudden wonders how she can make you become more attracted to her or at least notice her. Finally, you will more easily have fun and be more fun to be around which will make women respond more positively towards you.
This paragraph describes playing 'hard to get'. You can do it sometimes, but will work against you most of the time and is a bit of a feminine move. There are better ways of gaining her interest.

Showing no interest is what a gay man does. Saying 'you look good' and 'i like you' are mandatory.
 

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Pook says eliminate your AFC views of desire first, then embrace its more masculine form.
 

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Ease said:
This paragraph describes playing 'hard to get'. You can do it sometimes, but will work against you most of the time and is a bit of a feminine move. There are better ways of gaining her interest.

Showing no interest is what a gay man does. Saying 'you look good' and 'i like you' are mandatory.

This is what I thought as ever since reading looks posts I do the opposite and Lethe girl know that I am attracted to them by more eye contact and the use of kino but reading that other post made me second guess myself, thanks for the advice I'm sure I can incorporate both at the same time by portraying that I am interested in her but at the same time don't "need" her
 

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The DJ Bible is a bunch of guidelines and ideas for you to adapt to your syle. You have to pick and choose what you want to use as not all of it will work for yourself. You cant use all the advice within at once or in one "game."
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Ease said:
This paragraph describes playing 'hard to get'. You can do it sometimes, but will work against you most of the time and is a bit of a feminine move. There are better ways of gaining her interest.

Showing no interest is what a gay man does. Saying 'you look good' and 'i like you' are mandatory.
D-mn. Second post of yours I saw containing wisdom. I think some men get so nervous about making an AFC move, they forget--if not, refuse-- one of the most simplest of tasks: Saying 'you look good' and 'i like you' are mandatory
 
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