Contenplating breaking up with my girlfriend - Advice needed

[Crissco]

Red flags in my eyes:

Has a lot of guys hitting her up on face book and she responds
Still talks to her x boyfriends
Acts immature in certain ways
Still throws **** tests at me
Doesn't meet up with me looks wise. Been told I can do better
Brings me down instead of trys to be motivational to me


Good things she does:

Cooks for me
Cleans for me
Treats me great overall
Drives me around
Does things I want to make me happy
Lets me go through her phone and answer her calls/texts
I even farted in her face by accident(plus other embarrassing things) and shes still around

We've been seeing each other almost everyday for 7 weeks. Officially dating for 5 days now.



What would you do in this situation?

 

[HoneyHitter]

We've been seeing each other almost everyday for 7 weeks. Officially dating for 5 days...

Rookie mistake right there.

Plus, you've given her control of your life so now she looks down on you.
You don't need her. Stop acting lazy and take back your responsibility.

 

[Crissco]

Rookie mistake right there.

Plus, you've given her control of your life so now she looks down on you.
You don't need her. Stop acting lazy and take back your responsibility.

Im gonna back off, stop hanging out with her so much, and make my self more of a mystery and use this as an experience.

 

[Crissco]

Why would you go through her phone?

Insecure men get jealous because they put all of their eggs in one basket.

Men who spin plates don't get jealous because there's always another woman waiting around...

My advice is to spin your plates...never stick to one woman...get out there and meet as many woman as you can...while you're young...

But, of course, if it makes you "happy" to be with one girl...then just do it.

I dont go through her phone. She lets me answer calls, texts her friends, just **** around with her phone for the hell of it.

She has no clue who i used to be, i used to have 2 girls over a night almost every night. And no it doesnt make me happy to be with one girl. Im a polgymist.

 

[sinnerman]

"talks with x bf"
^^
this alone is enough a reason to not get emotionally attached. have fun with her but dont make the mistake of making her your ''gf''

 

[Scars]

"talks with x bf"
^^
this alone is enough a reason to not get emotionally attached. have fun with her but dont make the mistake of making her your ''gf''

I read this too and started thinking wtf? But at the same time, they have only been official for 5 days. Sometimes the transformation into a relationship is a slow process. You don't just hit up all your previous plates/romantic interests and randomly tell them "Sorry, but I have a girlfriend/boyfriend now, we can't talk anymore." Rather, I would just be straight up and tell her that you don't like and won't tolerate her talking to previous exs, whether it's over facebook or whatever. It's a pretty reasonable request, and if she can't follow it then dump her.

I believe you also made the mistake of making yourself too available at the beginning. Seeing her everyday for a week, and then dating right after. You already know things are peachy when you're together constantly but you need to test the waters and see how she is when she's not around you constantly. You might find yourself identifying even MORE red flags.

Sh!t tests will never stop my friend, and when you first enter a relationship you can expect a lot of them. That is normal for any girl. This is the time where you draw the line and come to understandings about what is acceptable and what isn't. If you don't tell her to stop contacting her exes now then she's going to always think she can get away with it. Start by coming to an agreement on things, then add up the pros/cons one more time and decide from there.

Good luck.

-Scars

 

[Johnny_Kage]

Has a lot of guys hitting her up on face book and she responds

Does she respond in a flirty way? By this, I mean is she obviously egging them on?

Still talks to her x boyfriends

How many ex boyfriends does she have? Lol

Doesn't meet up with me looks wise. Been told I can do better

So why is she your gf in the first place?

Brings me down instead of trys to be motivational to me

So why is she your gf in the first place?

Good things she does:

Cooks for me
Cleans for me
Treats me great overall
Drives me around
Does things I want to make me happy

She sounds more like your mom....or possibly your maid than your gf.

We've been seeing each other almost everyday for 7 weeks. Officially dating for 5 days now.

Wow! That's nuts. I have an unofficial gf right now too. I couldn't see her every day for 7 weeks even if I wanted to. Do you ever go out (to meet other girls)? Have a job? Have hobbies?

What would you do in this situation?

Well based on what you said (she's not up to your level looks-wise), I wouldn't be exclusive with her in the first place. Also, I'd get my own car, a job, and some hobbies....just for my own sake.

Also, I don't know about you man, but I got into The Game so that I could get hotter, more interesting, more intelligent girls than I got previously. It sounds like you picked the first girl that liked you and decided to make her your gf.

 

[Sesar]

Im gonna back off, stop hanging out with her so much, and make my self more of a mystery and use this as an experience.

To me it sounds like it's just a game to you and you don't really care about this chic.. if that is so the eventual outcome is obvious then.

There shouldn't be any Rules or guidelines to follow everything should just be a Natural.. Use ur Gut Feeling as a Gauge of what is right and wrong.. I have strong belief in being Genuine in everything you do..

If you want to break up with her then do it... but do it with the right intention.

 

[Sh0t]

At best, use this situation as practice, which is what most relationships end up being anyway.

 

[loveshogun]

We've been seeing each other almost everyday for 7 weeks. Officially dating for 5 days now.

What would you do in this situation?

Realize that it's only 7 weeks, and that you're blowing this all way out of proportion.

You already made your list of things you don't like.

For now, forget about all the things you DO like.

Look at your list of dislikes, and decide, right now, if any of them are things you cannot compromise on.

Found any? Yes? Then break up.

If all of those particular things are things that are annoying but not a huge deal, then stick around and enjoy your list of things you like.

Seriously, 7 weeks? Officially dating for 5 days? I thought you were talking about a relationship that's been at least 8 months or something. Christ.

The stakes aren't exactly high, here.

Last time I needed advice was for my mortgage. That's a 30 year contract involving a whole ton of money. Just thought I'd give you some perspective. No disrespect, but don't make mountains out of mole hills.

 

[DonGorgon]

dont break up with her but stop obsessing over her just chill and act neutral and go get some other females.. her interest lever is still high for now but she eis prospecting so you do the same.. do not ask her any questions about other men simply dont care just get you some new women