Contacted an HB9 again after 6 months!

[duke007]

I don't normally do this...but I was deleting old numbers from my phone and thought it couldn't hurt to send a quick message to test the waters.

She was an HB9 Asian who went on a coffee date with me in April, but she flaked possibly because I made an arse of myself at the end. Field report here:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=49866

I remembered that she was trying to get a job at the casino so I said:

"Hey HB9! I was sorting through old numbers and found yours. Did you end up getting that casino job you always wanted? Cheers, duke007"

She replied straight away which surprised me:

"Hi! Haven't talked to you for long. I failed that one but I put on application and got another chance to the interview tomorrow. How are you going recently?"

Perfect timing hey? What do you make of this? Was she just being polite or is there a speck of interest there? I remember I gave up after one flake instead of persisting so it's hard to say

I replied saying good luck, you'll get it for sure, hear from you later...

Any advice on where to go from here?

 

[jakeyboy]

remember not to overanalyze, put yourself in her shoes. if you had said that to someone, would it mean that you were interested in them? naw right?

my ex used to be really friendly with me after we broke up, asking me how i was and all, but at the end if it all, it was jsut concern as a friend, nothing more.. and i made a mistake by analyzing too much. dont fall where i did mate.

high interest is her agreeing to your suggestion of a date. friendly conversation cannot be used as a gauge of interest. actions show her interest. go for it man.

 

[Thraxeh]

i would say that shes interested, think about it. she replyed straight away, knowing who u were, after 6 months. ur on her mind !

 

[Dirtheart]

my ex used to be really friendly with me after we broke up, asking me how i was and all, but at the end if it all, it was jsut concern as a friend, nothing more.. and i made a mistake by analyzing too much. dont fall where i did mate.

Same here. I agree with Jakeyboy on this. Once you start analyzing, it's downhill from there.

 

[becker]

Overanalysis is sort of a word that is prone to overanalysis itself. Whether something is overanalysis depends on how much of the story you have before you.

Let's say you've known a girl for a while, meaning that you know how she acts and responds to different situations. In that case, there may be a lot of insight that you have in her behavior that will allow you to find the deeper meaning to what she's saying based on her unspoken words.

It is a fact that many people just don't like the whole direct communication thing, and would much rather be cryptic because it makes them uncomfortable to say it directly. Unfortunately, that's the way it is, and you'll never know what these girls mean until you look beyond her actual words. Actions certainly help as well.

An example is a girl I went out with just recently who said she was married before and got divorced. She told me that it was one of those situations where she said "yes" but she really meant "no". If a girl can say yes to marriage when she really means no, then anything's possible

 

[Dee-Zy]

Keep us updated as to how this is going with this chick.

I have yet to call a girl I haven't seen in 2 ... or is it 3 years?

lol


long story, but yeah.


GHOST

 

[duke007]

good advice guys, sometimes I am prone to overanalyse. I've decided to call in 4-5 days to set up another coffee date..there's nothing to lose.

And if she texts me before then saying, "I got the job!" or whatever, then I can safely assume she has interest

 

[tristan22]

Not to rain on your parade, but i have contacted some girls i briefly dated in the past and it was nothing more then a big mistake. To me it demonstrates lack of progression.

I realize a lot of you believe in giving females a second chance, however i have found much more success and self satisfaction by practicing the one chance method. You see, by immediately dumping a female you save yourself valuable time, energy, and future disappointment. If in fact you decide to give a girl a second chance, you spend a lot of your time overanalyzing her every move and action.

I have dated a lot of girls and let me tell you, 95% of them make it very apparent when in fact they are interested in you. The other 5% are either religious nuts or psycho biche$, so do yourself a favor and next them immediatley!

One chance Method:

1. Get the #

2. Call her when you feel like it!

3. Arrange a place and time to go out with her.

4. She either agrees or feeds you some BS story.

5. If your fed a BS story you say "i'm sorry you feel this way" and hang up.

6. Discard the #

7. Who wants to date a flake anyway?

8. No harm done, go out and get more #'s until you find someone who appreciates you and your time!

 

[skinnydart]

I kinda did the same thing, and recieved surprising results.

There was this HB9 I met a year ago through my job, we talked for a little bit, but most topics stayed on work. At the time I was a big AFC and thought she was way to good (and to old: 19) for me and never even thought about asking her out.

Then after reading on this site a while, I finally decided what the hell, I'll ask her out, even though I hadn't really seen her in a year (although we go to the same school I rarely ran into her).

I call her up and say "hey, this is mark, so do you want out sometime?" clear out of the blue. Although she sounded really surprised, she said "yeah, that would be fun!".

P.S. but hey, at least I didn't come across as desperate/needy!

 

[jakeyboy]

Originally posted by tristan22

One chance Method:

1. Get the #

2. Call her when you feel like it!

3. Arrange a place and time to go out with her.

4. She either agrees or feeds you some BS story.

5. If your fed a BS story you say "i'm sorry you feel this way" and hang up.

6. Discard the #

7. Who wants to date a flake anyway?

8. No harm done, go out and get more #'s until you find someone who appreciates you and your time!

well said.

 

[AFK Protector]

Preach on my brothas!! yeah...I'm too asian to say that...but anyways!

Over analyzing sucks major d1ck for lack of a better term. Just go with the flow and girls will be attracted to you more. The more focused I was on my life and what I did and my goals, (and less on what girls thought), the more they were attracted to me. I haven't realized this until now, but even if you're acting "aloof and disinterested and even 'cool' ", girls can see thru that bullshat and know you're thinking about them all the time posting of a message board helping you eventually get them laid.

 

[neoncola]

I think you should try again. It's been awhile so any mistakes you made before have been long gone and she's probably forgotten for the most part. Good luck.