Contact Pattern

[tennisbuck12]

Quick question DJ's. I've taken this lady out 4 times and have a 5th date lineup up later in the week. How should my contact pattern between dates be? I always hate when my cell phone is bombarded and it typically drives me away. This is unique since I always want to text her, but haven't for the fear of driving her away.

 

[RangerMIke]

Keep calling and making dates with her once a week. When she starts calling you, just make a date. If you do things right she will be the one calling you, then make dates.

Do not text her... call her... don't talk to her on the phone, the phone is only used to make and coordinate dates. All your conversation should be in person on DATES. You are correct, too much communication by phone and text lowers her interest level. If she starts talking and wants to keep talking just say, "Babe I really would like to talk but I'm busy right now, let's meet after work for drinks and we can talk." or "gab a bottle of wine and I'll cook us some dinner at my place."

The point is do not get stuck talking with her on the phone.

 

[logicallefty]

At the 4-5 date stage, I think I go against the grain of most guys here... I will text a HB I am seeing if she texts me first, not generally right away, but within an hour or two if I am no busy, longer if I am. I keep all text convos funny, nothing serious ever, unless we are scheduling a meet.... But I will text for more than just that.. But even if she says something as basic as "what are you doing", my answer will be something like "getting my Kelvin Kleins ready for my dancing gig tonight" or "shining my handcuffs" or "doing what you do best, sitting on my a$$ on the couch". The one thing that is really better with text is the ability to just cut off and go NC. There aren't many things that drive a HB insane than when you are texting and all the sudden you just go cold and stop.. And she sends 3-4 texts and you don't reply.. When a HB does something to displease me, that's what I do, and it always ends up working out in my favor in regards to her wanting me more and IL. Much harder to do like this in a live phone call. I'm just not big on the phone call. As a kid like 10 and under I loved talking on the phone but as an adult I've never been much into it.. Maybe it's because I like doing more than one thing at a time and when talking on the phone often that's not as easy. A text is short, sweet, and to the point whereas with a phone call there is generally more BS chatter than concrete conversation. Thats my perception anyway... To each their own.

 

[tennisbuck12]

Thanks guys!

 

[NSX-R]

Text her any time you feel like doing it. Saying that, I don't mean doing it all the time.
You said , you are fearing that thanks to your actions you are going drive her away . That's an afc trait and it's going to make your fear into reality. Get rid off this stupid feeling and let your inner nature take control and use your mind to improve it .
Remember, getting dumped makes a man stronger.

 

[stevo]

So one thing to keep in mind is:

The woman determines the relational pace

The man determines the sexual pace.

In simple English what that means is, she will come to you when she wants some attention and also when her instinct alerts her that your communication needs to be revived.

When she does come to you, you take charge, infuse dirty/sexy innuendo in your convo, and schedule something for the two of you to do and touch her through the activity.

Finally, to answer your question.

It's amazing you want to hear from her but it's only a beautiful thing when she wants to hear from you more than you want to hear from her, let her come to you and when she does you'll be there guiding her advances.