Contact after good first date

[Exoduso]

Just wanted to get people's opinions on this.
If the date went really well, lots of flirting, laughing, smiling, chemistry, and plenty of kino (regardless if it got to the point of a kiss or not), how long would you wait until you contacted the girl? Assuming you exchanged texts at the end of the night saying you both had a good time and looking forward to doing it soon.

Everyone seems to have different opinions on this, so I was wondering.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

TEXTING KILLS RELATIONSHIPS.

You can click on the link in my signature to see why. The only time you text a girl is if (a) she text you first and you're sending a response, or (b) if you're too chicken to call for a date but still want to ask her out. THAT'S IT.

You don't want to get in the habit of having long text conversations with a woman on the phone. If anything, you want her to NOT know when you'll hit her up next time for a date. So, if you went out with her last night and want to take her out next Wednesday, wait til Monday to hit her up. Yes, that means going a full 4 DAYS without hitting her up, and those 4 days you're not talking to her or hitting her up first will work in your favor.

Remember: you never want a girl to completely know she has your interest. The more she can't quite figure you out, the longer you'll be in the game for. And yes, I'm sure other people on here will chime in with "no, no, no, you gotta hit her up right away." You don't. I've had girls I took out a few times then didn't contact for months or YEARS who still wanted to go out with me when I finally decided to hit them up again. If they like you, you don't have to rush in by sending her messages all the time.

Hope this helps!

 

[Trump]

Just wanted to get people's opinions on this.
If the date went really well, lots of flirting, laughing, smiling, chemistry, and plenty of kino (regardless if it got to the point of a kiss or not),

Bro the kiss is everything. Other than that you are just feeding her ego. You have to make her invest by kissing you, all the flirting and I like you stuff is white noise otherwise.

how long would you wait until you contacted the girl? Assuming you exchanged texts at the end of the night saying you both had a good time and looking forward to doing it soon.

Like Harry said, you shouldn't say you had a good time on text. She shows that to the guy she is sleeping and your value drops.

Don't know the exact circumstances above, but guys shouldn't assume girls are innocent. Sometimes they want to test you to see how long you will go before you emotionally snap.

 

[Fatal Jay]

I agree, there is no reason to be texting a girl, only call her to meet up, that's it.

 

[Exoduso]

I think you guys misunderstood the point of the question though. Staying away from texting and calling is a given, I was referring to how long you would wait until you contacted the girl for a second date assuming all of the above happened.

 

[Fatal Jay]

If you really like her, then wait until she contacts you.

 

[buzzin_frog]

I've had girls I took out a few times then didn't contact for months or YEARS who still wanted to go out with me when I finally decided to hit them up again.

Years? must of been some desperate fat ass low quality women LOL :crackup:

 

[VladPatton]

Definitely keep texting just to set up dates, a minimum. Once you teach her that you are a texter, it's a bad, bad deal. It'll be the core of your communication, and that's bad.

As far as when to contact her, there are various thoughts on this. I say do them all. Keep her guessing. Sometimes 3 days, sometimes 4. Hell even a week at times. Surprise, you did it the next day. Keep it random. But have the discipline and patience to not text like a madman in between dates. Take your time. If she is not feeling you and it turns to shıt, you invested little time. Why would you? You don't know her. This is all a big screening process, so don't rush into Needy Mode.

Chill and don't be anxious, girls can small that shıt like blood to a shark!

Good luck.

 

[Exoduso]

Thanks for the response guys.
Point being, the date went really well, but was on Wednesday. She left for the weekend and will only be back Sunday night. I don't plan on calling her until Monday, so we'll see how it goes.