Constant flaking thou she's interested?

[harry1]

Hi,

I have a problem with a girl. I know her for 2 years, and 2.5 months ago she broke up with her bf. During the whole time I knew her we were flirtacious, although never anything serious. 2.5 months ago she phoned me, telling stuff like she really misses me (I moved away 3 months ago), likes to hear my voice again and would pick me as her new bf if i was still around. So 1.5 month ago, I moved again and I'm now near her again. I called her, although I'm aware of the fact that the whole "i really like / miss you" stuff could just be seeking validation and stems from lonliness or whatever. I wanted to give it a shot nonetheless.
So since 1.5 month ago we phoned quite regularily. I suggested to come over to her place about 3 weeks ago and she was fine with it. But then she called me to say that she's got a caught a cold (which was the truth i guess) and she wants to postpone it for 1 week to which I agreed.

I phoned her 1 week later and suggested to go to some pub at her place.
She first said "fine" but immediatley suggested to go out one day later with her female friends and she'll call me again the next day to tell me the exact time. The next day (which was today) she called me in the afternoon, and said that her friends don't wanna go but I can come over anyways today or tomorrow but I should check first if there are any interesting movies for me (there is some festival right now) and then call her back in the evening. She also asked me if I wanna go to a movie in 2 weeks and I agreed, so she asked me also on what day I have time.
So actually I wanted to call her today again and tell her that there's no interesting movie and we should just go to the pub. However in the meantime, she wrote me via IM that she has lots of stuff to do for university (also told me that on the phone earlier) and she has not time today. She wrote she's sorry and hopes I ain't mad at her and was asking about "maybe next week or at least in 2 weeks for that movie" till we see each other again.

So I'm not sure what to think of it. Why does she flake again (even at her own meeting proposals), even also kinda declining tomorrow, which she also offered as possibility first. It can't be bc she doesn't have enough comfort as we are pretty used to each other, and spent time together before. And even she just sees my in the LJBF zone (which I doubt but also don't really care) she could just meet an old friend, so that's not an explanation either. Is she embarrassed by her phone call after she broke up with her bf and now doesn't want to come across as too cheap? Or ss she afraid just bc we've known each other for quite some time and now things are gonna change / get more serious? And most of all: How should I behave now?
Should I just wait and let her call and set up smth?
Or should I call her after some days, maybe sunday, to ask for a new meeting next week and just ignore what happened?
I guess putting some kind of pressure is not helping. Although sometimes I have the impression of her needing to just get a kick in her ass to move. So would smth like calling her some days later and then a) "meet again on XXX but don't flake me again bc I don't have time for that crap" or b) "call me again when you your mind up to what you really want" or c) "I'll come by at XXX whether you like or not" smth like that be any help?

Thanks for your help.

 

[f283000]

dude you are a p____ and she knows that. You need to put your foot down or else women will walk all over you. The second time she flaked on you that was enough. Just give up on this one brother and save yourself the little bit of dignity you have left.

This is common advice but i do talk from personal experience also. I once asked a girl out 4 times in a period of a couple months then i realized what my problem was. We talked and talked and I had fallen into the friend zone. You either get on a date with her soon after the approach or else it is friend zone 80% of the time.

If a woman is really interested in you she will make time for you and go out with you the first time you ask her. If she denies you once you can forgive her, if she denies you twice it is time to next her as she doesn't see you as a romantic partner.

I'm sorry bro but this one is over, NEXT!

 

[Igetit!]

dude you are a p____ and she knows that. You need to put your foot down or else women will walk all over you. The second time she flaked on you that was enough. Just give up on this one brother and save yourself the little bit of dignity you have left.

This is common advice but i do talk from personal experience also. I once asked a girl out 4 times in a period of a couple months then i realized what my problem was. We talked and talked and I had fallen into the friend zone.

If a woman is really interested in you she will make time for you and go out with you the first time you ask her. If she denies you once you can forgive her, if she denies you twice it is time to next her.

This is 100% correct. It's simple man,she isn't romantically interested in you but she likes the attention she gets from you. The fact that she has you waiting on her hand and foot is an ego boost for her. If she really,really,really liked you and was interested in you,she probably would have dumped her BF a long time ago,and started dating you. Does a crack addict have to be talked into,convinced,or persuaded to go get more drugs? Of course not. They naturally,on their own seek it out. If she was into you,you wouldn't be able to keep her from trying to hang around you all the time. Your attention to her is like a drug. She just calls you up whenever she needs a fix,you try to set up a date with her,(letting her know that she's still wanted,still desired by you),then she gets her fix,then she ignores you and goes on her way until she needs another hit of attention. Then the cycle starts all over again.