Consensus on Affirmations?

[Lost]

Was there ever a consensus on which is the eright way to do Nlp and affirmations?

some ppl say to use YOU and some ppl say I and argue both ways.

anyone know for sure which is better/works ?


Edit: actually i think id rather do anchoring asi think theyl work better.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

What worked for me was that I Incorporated NLP into my perception of myself and the world. Once I did that, any affirmations I told myself I readily believed without any question what so ever. It was as if it wasn't an affirmation anymore, it was fact.

 

[Alpine]

I use I and You. But to be honest the best thing I ever did to improve their power was to change all affs into questions.

I think I got it from the REX Sykes course notes.

The whole thing about directing the mind with questions is pretty neat generally. When I notice I'm in a **** mood the best thing to change focus is a question that asks about why you should feel good, and the opposite is true. Question like 'Why am I useless with women, tends to lead to an answer?'

I am also using semi subliminal stuff, as I type messages pop up on my screen that are just beyond my eye reading them.

I also make tapes with left ear/right ear affirmation chatter.

There have been a few thread on this, worth a search if you are utilising this technology.

 

[Lost]

i wanna use ANCHORS instead

but i cant think of how to do an anchor without ppl noticing

if you raise your first and go YESS!! ,... i think ppl will notice rofl! especially in class ( college )

 

[Lost]

sooooooo does anyone know?

maybe i can do the anchor without saying anything out loud? or will it not work?

like if i put my hadn in my shirt and put fingers on the side like i was gonna loosen a tie..... and then just said the word bond IN MY HEAD ???

altho that might change if im in differnt sitaution ( im wearing a tshirt instead of button. or if im not wearin a shirt or something.....???)

anyone??

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

If you need to depend on an anchor it's apparent that you haven't overcome your phobia. Wouldn't it be easier to just conquer your fears?

 

[Lost]

i assume that if i used an anchor to help me to approach.. after doing it hundreds of times i wouldnt have the fear of approaching.



can anyone answer the question?



P.S. maybe this should be in the discussion forum?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Lost
i assume that if i used an anchor to help me to approach.. after doing it hundreds of times i wouldnt have the fear of approaching.

That's not quite the way that anchoring works.

 

[Lost]

what the heck are you talking about?

I make an anchor to be confident
I approach
Repeatx300
Loss/Diminish of Fear of Approaching

makes perfect sense to me.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Lost
what the heck are you talking about?

I make an anchor to be confident

Like I said, that is not how anchoring works...

 

[Lost]

yeah it is.

you anchor any emotion you want.

maybe you should fully explain what you mean when you say " thats not how it works"

because according to everyone and everything ive read, thats how it works. And the people that created it cant be wrong???

How can you say that "thats not how it works" after the only thing i said was "I want to anchor confidence" ..lol

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

You don't anchor emotions, you anchor experiences that caused the emotions that you would want to relive. Anchoring does not work unless you have a vivid past experience that you want to anchor. This is why your vain attempt to anchor just a emotion hasn't worked.

You need to find a better source of your information about anchoring because it has you completely confused and frustrated because it hasn't worked for you.

 

[Lost]

stop with the wording.

the point of anchoring is to achieve the emotion
'

of course u cant just think of the word confident to anchor it

you have to think of a time you were confident.


my sources are fine. and i havent done anchoring before so how could it have not worked for me?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Maybe if you got a better resource you wouldn't get confused by my explanation. Go to a real library and study true NLP and stop basing you so called knowledge from threads on the Net.

 

[Alpine]

Lost,

The key thing you need is what is called an interrupt. I think you are trying to use and anchor to do that, which may make sense to you but is not ideal.

Once this is done, then a powerful confidence anchor will be very useful.

Buy some Anthony Robbins books, he's the best at explaining NLP simply. Or get personal power the audio series. This is worth every penny, and will really boost your skills and inner game.

Even better, find a local group that does NLP. I used to go to one in London and it was about £5 an evening. Every month they had a speaker and you got to PRACTICE the theory.