Connection between : confidence & giving up too easy & sticking with it

[KneghtRyder]

watching this show called "keys to the VIP" I realize the error I was making thats preventing me from getting to the next step...

I give up too soon..

I realize that you have to keep at it, throwing down her objections, ask again until YOU get the number.

You've got to get the number , think your worthy of it hehe
YOU"ve got to FIND some way to get the number ..



Previously, I 'd OPT out by "okay , I got the email" whipee doo .and not say anything further. OR Just walk off if I feel the disinterest too much ...I realize that it was inexperience right then and there


I think it all comes down to your own self-belief & confidence. If you truely believed you were an ALPHA who deserved That Girl..you'd be like 'I deserve thsi girl' and you wouldn't accept no for an answer. HOwever, if you didn't feel you were ALPHA.. at the slightest hint of failure would re-confirm your internal state and you'd probably walk away.

After watching the show, i realize that the level one needs to be TO ACTUALLY GET A NUMBER , , irregardless of anyone's looks, is pretty high. The bar in terms of 'game' or 'confidence' is set pretty high....

I just haven't been meetin the standards



p.s. btw i got a number today but shes leavin town tomorrow hehe righ tnow i have some confidence issues i m work through to throw the attention not on me but them

 

[sadburger]

Good work on the number Keep at it, only by losing your fear of rejection will you truly have the confidence you need to eliminate most of the rejects in the first place! And remember, YOU are the prize. If some chick absolutely isn't interested, thats her loss.

 

[Obsidian]

Technically, you are right. If you haven't gotten the chance to properly demonstrate your personality to the woman, you shouldn't pay much attention to her low IL. If she turns you down and you decide she is still worth pursuing, you may get another chance after she gets to know you better.

If you've properly introduced yourself to a girl, however, and she knowingly and willfully disrespects you and shows a low IL, then you should definitely NOT keep trying with her. There's no point in hooking up with a girl (or staying with a girl) who has only moderate feelings toward you.

Modern relationships, specifically marriages, are in a sad enough state as things are -- especially for me. There's no point in getting anywhere near commitment with a girl who isn't right for you.