Connecting

[The Duke]

There have been a few things tossed around the past week and our resident Grandma posted something that tied it all together. Connecting with women is not completely about being a dominant Alpha type. It has more to do with what she said below:

@BeExcellent -

"emotionally healthy men who can create deep emotional bonds actually ARE the most masculine of the males out there."

Some of the most alpha acting male personalities I see are very selfish, lack a lot of heart, don't calibrate well, insensitive, zero vulnerability, they can't reason very well, and come across as slightly offensive at times. That alpha act is a cover up for what they lack beneath the surface.

I got a random text from a girl from my past. I hadn't heard from her in quite a while. I thought the text she sent was a good example of the type of language you will hear from a woman that you made deep emotional bonds with. Its all about how you make them FEEL.

I miss you.
I miss the way you held me.
I miss the way you smell.
I miss the way I felt special with you.
I miss sleeping in with you.
I miss cooking for you and making you happy.
I miss your funny stories.
I miss knowing that you were there for me.
And of course last but not least....THE AMAZING SEX we had together.
I wanted to tell you this for a long time and wanted you to know how you made my heart feel.
I won't bother you again, just wanted you to know how special you made me feel.

It was all of those "things" she mentioned that made her feel like she needed to feel that created the emotional bonds which led to the amazing sex.

You will get further with women creating emotional bonds than you will trying to convince her of how Alpha you are. You have got to connect with her much like a successful motivational speaker does with his audience.

 

[Murk]

It’s a balance, attract her being alpha, develops a bond being your natural perceptive, intelligent and caring self. Obviously not everyone (male and female) can operate on a deeper emotional intellectual level so you just make so with what you have.

Not everyone has those qualities and some people have a hard time learning them. Not everyone was born with depth like that.

 

[guru1000]

TL DR: Hypergamy is dead. Meeting her needs (and thus connecting) is the panacea.

Thanks.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Yeah, but no wishy washy crap. We've all heard this before. This is dangerous to say especially to the noobs. A blue pill kid will interpret this as being nice and caring and sensitive and crap like that. Even though women still fall for jerks despite complaining about them all the time. Pook put it best. They want a guy they can bond with via the caring sensitivity, a guy who will take care of her needs, a guy who is in tune with her feelings, etc. etc. However, they want this man to still have a backbone and still be a man; they like all of these qualities but in the strong and dominant alpha male.

Let's put it in simpler terms:

Every girl wants a bad boy who is good only to them.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

TL DR: Hypergamy is dead. Meeting her needs (and thus connecting) is the panacea.

Thanks.

Ugh, you gotta quit trying to promote your agenda. It's important to note that women want the bond mostly due to security reasons (i.e. they need to seep their claws into something so that they have at least some control over you; this way, they make sure that you continue providing resources for them). Not because they actually want to know you for you. It is inherent within them.

 

[guru1000]

However, they want this man to still have a backbone and still be a man; they like all of these qualities but in the strong and dominant alpha male.

No discrepancy. A man with a backbone very often is part of her "needs."

It's important to note that women want the bond mostly due to security reasons (i.e. they need to seep their claws into something so that they have at least some control over you; this way, they make sure that you continue providing resources for them). Not because they actually want to know you for you. It is inherent within them.

No applicability to the argument purported.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

No discrepancy. A man with a backbone very often is part of her "needs."

Indirect needs, not direct.

 

[guru1000]

Indirect needs, not direct [needs].

Look for the common word. And don't confuse "needs" with "wants."

 

[wifehunter]

Connecting emotionally is one thing... connecting spiritually is more important.

Matching character and priorities is crucial.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Look for the common word. And don't confuse "needs" with "wants."

You can live homeless off of little food for a relatively long period of time. Is that what you want? You don't NEED anything else in front of you really, but you want it. Understand the linguistics of it.

 

[guru1000]

You can live homeless off of little food for a relatively long period of time. Is that what you want? You don't NEED anything else in front of you really, but you want it. Understand the linguistics of it.

Needs can be as simple as needing food, or as complicated as needing a prince to marry. Needs are indoctrinated constructs, and thus unconsciously derived, founded upon a person's history and "vacancies." The girl abandoned by her father may need a "father" figure. The homeless girl may need a stable home. The girl from an affluent family may need a similar lifestyle. The girl rejected and ostracized by her family may need acceptance and love. Needs are entirely subjective circumscribed around the "holes" of the subject.

Hence, why rigid perspectives which fail to account for subjective needs enslave you into the dogma of a reverse-matrix. Apply fluidity into your interactions to identify (and implicitly serve) the needs of your subject, and you will ensnare a loyal army at your beck and all.

 

[Trump]

Connecting with women is not completely about being a dominant Alpha type. It has more to do with what she said below:

@BeExcellent -

"emotionally healthy men who can create deep emotional bonds actually ARE the most masculine of the males out there."

Deep emotional bonds and being emotional with women are 2 separate things. The trick is to create a deep, loving, emotional bond with a woman and having amazing sex, and have her not know anything that she can use against you.

But ideally, woman are much practical than men when it comes to relationships. It's the men who seem to care about "bonding and loving and sex." Women don't care about that crap. They care about what you can do for them.

I got a random text from a girl from my past. I hadn't heard from her in quite a while. I thought the text she sent was a good example of the type of language you will hear from a woman that you made deep emotional bonds with. Its all about how you make them FEEL.

If she had such an emotional bond with you, why hadn't you heard from her in such a while?

It was all of those "things" she mentioned that made her feel like she needed to feel that created the emotional bonds which led to the amazing sex.

You will get further with women creating emotional bonds than you will trying to convince her of how Alpha you are. You have got to connect with her much like a successful motivational speaker does with his audience.

Not sure I agree with that.

She has a strong emotional bond with a garbage man. She has no emotional bond with a CEO. Who is she having sex with and wants to be the father of her children?