"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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congruency on looks

KnightRyder

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Just curious to know, usually we guys rate a women out of ten , what if one guy finds a woman a lot hotter than another, such if one guy gives a woman a hb5 , but i give her a hb9 .. can that happen ?

Do we all see looks equally ? Is that the same for women looking at us ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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No_Sleep

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No everyone see girls differently. If all guys were attracted to the same type of girl... u can just imagine that outcome. a HB5 for one guy might be a HB8 to someone else because maybe the first guys doesnt like redheads and the other guys does.
 

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stop using the "C" word.

1. we don't need any more buzzwords on the board

2. it was improper usage in this instance
 

AMF

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He meant "consensus".
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yes of course, which is why you can't pick all women up .
 

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10 - Excellent Body, Excellent Face.
9 - Excellent Body, Great Face,
8 - Great Body, Great Face.
7 - Great Body, Average Face.
6 - Average Body, Average Face.
5 - Average Body, Below Average Face.
4 - Below Average Body, Below Average Face.
3 - Below Average Body, Ugly Face.
2 - Ugly Body, Ugly Face
1 - Super Ugly

+1/2 in looks if personality is awesome (honest, knows stuff, little games, little tests, mid-high interest level)

-1/2 in looks if personality is ugly (dishonest, whiny, lots of games, lots of tests, low-mid interest level)

-1/2 depending on how much makeup she usually puts on.

Why do you see below average/below average guys with non gold-digging HB6s-8s?

Average Guy = 6+2 in personality = 8.

Below Average Guy = 4+2 in personality = 6

I have a friend, he's average looking. Me and him notice a hot looking 21 year old girl at a bar. I told him, dude go there. he said no thanks. I ask him why. He told me "She wears too much makeup, dresses like a h0, and acts like a stupid giggly h0 - she is below my standards"

She seemed like a HB8, but from the way he was judging her she became a HB4. Below his standard.
 
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