Confusion and Ridiculousness.

[anbesolrox]

So, I met this HB9 at a party a couple of weeks ago. She's 21, and has a 25 year old sister my age. Anyways, I thought I worked my game pretty well, by the end of the night I had the 21 year old putting her number in my phone and telling me that I MUST come out with them.

However. However, her sister didn't want to go to the after party, and since they live together (with their parents!!!) they went home. Over the week, the HB9's sister (ugly) and cousin (HB7) are all over my facebook. HB9 of course ignores my request. HB9 and I make a plan to see a movie Saturday night. Friday, her ugly sister invites me to have dinner with her and her friends. I txt HB9 asking her if she's going, and she reveals that she wasn't even invited! So I use the work excuse, and bow out as well.

Also during the week, watching a movie together turns into meeting at a bar in the city with her sister, and her sister's friends. Fine. Whatever. At this point I'm fearing that I've been given the bait and switch. But I decide to go with it, if only because I don't have any better prospects going on. Saturday afternoon, I call HB9 to get the final details for the bar. She mentions that she feels tired, and may not go (bait & switch alert!). I tell her flat out that I have no desire to go if she's not. Anyway, at 8:30 she txts me saying that she fell asleep and is not going. At this point I basically wrote her off, and responded with: "Maybe we can catch that movie some other time.", and leave it there.

Sunday, she calls me wanting to go to the movie. Surprised, I agree, and we catch a movie Sunday evening. She didn't bring her sister. I think Sunday is a horrible day for a date if only because I can't do anything afterwards, my being a working stiff. After the movie, I walk her to her car, and she gives me this ridiculous Granny-Hug.

At this point, I once again write her off! I get home, and about a half hour after I get there, HB9 calls. We end up talking for about an hour, and I figure that I might as well see if she wants to go out again. We make plans to get dinner tomorrow evening before her class (she's a senior in college).

I guess my question is: What the F is going on? I have a feeling that she called me after the ruinous date on Sunday feeling that she'd been too cold. Regardless, I'm not holding a lot of hope on this one, but I'd like to get people's opinion. Thanks for your time, everyone.

 

[T-Roy]

Well go to dinner with her and keep going from there. After that hang out with her sister the next time the sister asks and be nice to the sister. Maybe even flirt a very little bit. That way the sister likes you, but isn't getting any big idea's. So the sister is going to tell HB9 that your a fun guy. Hopefully if their a tight family then HB9 will take the advice to heart.

Actually try steering the conversation at dinner towards that just to see how close a family they are. (Don't talk to much about family or she may see you as a guy who really wants to get married. Which in any situation can be a bad thing.)

But I'm sixteen and probably don't have as much experience as you do. But I think that that is some sound advice. I hope I helped.

 

[thatguyjamalx]

That whole granny hug thing sounds lame, you should've been macking on her while the movie was playing.
Is she one of those "lets take it slow" types or what? If thats the case plow through her ASD.
Next time your out, escalate on her & make your intentions (more)clearer.
T-Roy's gotta point, be nice to the sister, it will score points, be wary though she may try & jump you.

 

[anbesolrox]

Update (Not that anyone cares)

Well, I had dinner with her. Afterwards we "watched a movie" at my place. It was good. She was hot. I am happy.

All's well that ends well!