confusion about topic in dj bible - ignoring on 2nd meeting

[pete101]

There's a topic in the dj bible about how if u show your high value on your first meeting then on your 2nd encounter u ignore her. you do this in order to make her feel she's missed out on something, a very basic psychological process, however the confusion about this is that by definition if you show your high value and get the number, aren't u suppose to call her and set up a date?

and say for instance u make this call and she does not pick up/call you back then by ignoring her the next time u see her just demonstrates bitterness that she rejected you.

i dont understand this method in anti-dump machine. in what context are u suppose to use it?

i follow the principle that if u show high value then remove it the next time u see her then she'll feel she missed out on something. i can only see this in a situation whereby u will bump into her again (say college for instance) and did not number close. but in most situations u may not see this girl again so wont get an opportunity to show your disinterest.

can anyone explain what situations u would use this method?

 

[Sandow]

not sure if i understand your question, but i think what ant-dump is trying to say is that by taking something away she will feel like she missed out, therefore her wanting you more. however if she has rejected you, then by no means should you ignore her. whatever you did she didnt like, so u have to try again. ignoring only works if she is attracted to you. so get her interested first, then play a lil hard to get.

 

[pete101]

yeah but in what situation would u use this method?

cos by definition if u are picking a girl up in a cafe/mall or at night or wherever u should get the number, how are u suppose to ignore her on a 2nd meeting?

if u make the call to set up a date, and she doesn't pick up then if u ignore her next time u see her she'll think it's just cos you're bitter about her not calling back.

 

[Sandow]

You can't take every piece of advice literally, you are going to have to use your own judgment at times. "Ignoring" is a bad word, in my opinion i don't think you should do that. Being a bit aloof is better. Somewhat of a challenge, don't give away too much info, don't tell her how you feel, or give her compliments (at least about her physical apperance). Light negs are ok, as long as they are tasteful and funny. No more than 2.

So in your situation, yea she is going to think you're bitter at her. So...don't ignore her. Like I said, advice here is open ended, apply it to the context your in. If You want to "ignore" her, fine. It doesnt have to be the 2nd meeting every time, Lol. You can do it the 3rd or even 4th. Heck even the 5th. When you see her next act like nothing ever happened. Like I said, work on attraction first. You will know when she is. Then go apply what we're talking about :rockon:

 

[COD]

THIS IS BETTER EXPLAINED WITH A TOPIC APPROPRIATELY TITLED "ACTIVE DISS-INTEREST".........simply put its once the attraction process is initiated you pull back slightly thereby having them persue you. Thus incrasing your value as i supply & demand.

A SONG illustrates this too........."I know you want me, you know I want you"