Hellomisslady
Don Juan
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Hello all!
So here it is... my relationship with my current girlfriend has taken a dive downhill... We have been going out since May 2011, and went to different colleges last year and tried to get the long distance to work. Well, it worked ok, I visited a lot, but we had our first big argument in December leading to us nearly breaking up. After that we lasted a few months without too many issues until about March when we had another big argument leading to another near break up.
Fast forward to when I came home from school at the end of April... we were not on the same page at all and nearly every day we had an argument about something, it lead to us actually breaking up for a few days about two weeks ago, and she convinced me to give it another shot.. so we're sort of together still, but we have still been getting into arguments very frequently about stupid things and it's clear she doesn't really trust me or believe I tell the truth a lot of the time (which has to do with her past history with men).
I don't feel like I did before about her... it's been too much stress and drama on me to really want it to continue and truly be able to say I feel like I did before. She says she loves me more than anything in the world and I still say it back... but I don't really think it's there.
I think that it would be better for me to break up with her... but I'm really worried about how she will cope if I do. Her parents are not supportive or really friendly for that matter in any way, and most of her friends are not great friends. Her parents already don't like me, saying that "I'm not allowed to spend the night at her house anymore unless we're engaged because I make her cry all the time." (They're literally crazy) I know that I shouldn't let the fact that I'll feel guilty or bad stand in the way of what I think I need to do, but I can't help it because I actually do care about her wellbeing, even if I don't think we really belong together anymore. She says if I give up on her, she doesn't know who else can help her get through life, and I'd be the one that got away.. things like that. I feel like it's unfair of her to put that on me... but I still feel bad.
Anyways, I just don't know when or how to do it... we are supposed to go to a concert this Friday night as her one year anniversary gift to me, and I don't know if I should or even can do it before then.
In relation to our relationship going downhill so much... I've started noticing other women more, specifically one that I work with, which could be problematic. I mentioned her to my boss the other day and later we ended up talking about another coach (I am a coach) who was 26 and dated an 18 year old athlete and they "politely asked him to leave"... that is something that I really hope does not happen because I love that job, but I don't completely know how to handle that situation. I know that if anything did come of it though that I would just be a man and be upfront about it with my boss and promise it won't affect either of our performance and it won't show when we're there together...
Anyways, please let me know your opinions on all of this, I'm just very confused and stressed right now about what to do. I'll appreciate any help
Thanks!
TL;DR: Relationship going downhill with girlfriend of one year, interested in another that I work with, very confused
So here it is... my relationship with my current girlfriend has taken a dive downhill... We have been going out since May 2011, and went to different colleges last year and tried to get the long distance to work. Well, it worked ok, I visited a lot, but we had our first big argument in December leading to us nearly breaking up. After that we lasted a few months without too many issues until about March when we had another big argument leading to another near break up.
Fast forward to when I came home from school at the end of April... we were not on the same page at all and nearly every day we had an argument about something, it lead to us actually breaking up for a few days about two weeks ago, and she convinced me to give it another shot.. so we're sort of together still, but we have still been getting into arguments very frequently about stupid things and it's clear she doesn't really trust me or believe I tell the truth a lot of the time (which has to do with her past history with men).
I don't feel like I did before about her... it's been too much stress and drama on me to really want it to continue and truly be able to say I feel like I did before. She says she loves me more than anything in the world and I still say it back... but I don't really think it's there.
I think that it would be better for me to break up with her... but I'm really worried about how she will cope if I do. Her parents are not supportive or really friendly for that matter in any way, and most of her friends are not great friends. Her parents already don't like me, saying that "I'm not allowed to spend the night at her house anymore unless we're engaged because I make her cry all the time." (They're literally crazy) I know that I shouldn't let the fact that I'll feel guilty or bad stand in the way of what I think I need to do, but I can't help it because I actually do care about her wellbeing, even if I don't think we really belong together anymore. She says if I give up on her, she doesn't know who else can help her get through life, and I'd be the one that got away.. things like that. I feel like it's unfair of her to put that on me... but I still feel bad.
Anyways, I just don't know when or how to do it... we are supposed to go to a concert this Friday night as her one year anniversary gift to me, and I don't know if I should or even can do it before then.
In relation to our relationship going downhill so much... I've started noticing other women more, specifically one that I work with, which could be problematic. I mentioned her to my boss the other day and later we ended up talking about another coach (I am a coach) who was 26 and dated an 18 year old athlete and they "politely asked him to leave"... that is something that I really hope does not happen because I love that job, but I don't completely know how to handle that situation. I know that if anything did come of it though that I would just be a man and be upfront about it with my boss and promise it won't affect either of our performance and it won't show when we're there together...
Anyways, please let me know your opinions on all of this, I'm just very confused and stressed right now about what to do. I'll appreciate any help
Thanks!
TL;DR: Relationship going downhill with girlfriend of one year, interested in another that I work with, very confused