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Confusing low contact with low interest

Hyper2010

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Been seeing a girl for around 7 weeks now and things are very good between us

Lately however I notice we don't text as much as when we first met. Whilst what I'm reading on here says that her interest in me is falling, perhaps as you know someone the communication level decreases anyhow as you become less inquisitive and more stable

Any thoughts??
 

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apprenticedj

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I think that's possible, depending on the person. Do your best not to overanalyze this one, if she's texting you less than before simply mirror her behaviour. Soon enough she'll start to wonder why you're not texting her as often and then you'll have a little more leverage in the relationship.
 

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Texting is a poor indicator of interest. When her desire to see you falls, when she is less excited about you when you guys are together, when she's not screaming your name as much while you're banging her..that's when you need to start thinking her interest is lowering.
 

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In every relationship or interaction there is always someone reacting more to the other person than the other.

Be the one who does not react as much. Always try to mirror her, don't display too much interest, keep yourself busy with hobbies and you will see your own value go up.
 

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Thanks for the advice, I'd agree. We still text and sometimes speak on phone (which she initiates) but just not as much . Like mentioned above, I think if she stopped wanting to see me, stopped giving sex or completeley dissapeared that would be a bad sign.
 

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Hyper2010 said:
Thanks for the advice, I'd agree. We still text and sometimes speak on phone (which she initiates) but just not as much . Like mentioned above, I think if she stopped wanting to see me, stopped giving sex or completeley dissapeared that would be a bad sign.
I mean if you feel like the passion is running out of bottle, then that's a decision you have to make for yourself. Either she isn't up to your own standards in terms of being intellectually stimulating or just being able to up your state and make you feel happy then you might have to consider spinning plates.
 

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Renegade357 said:
You'll know she's losing interest when she stops accepting dates from you. It's that simple really.

This!

When she doesn't wanna see you, then you should expect the end is close. Other than that, count your blessings! Why the hell would you text her 1000 times a day for? Let it all build up for when you see her.
 
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