Confusing behaviour

[popsickle]

Hey guys,

I've talked about this girl on the forum before. To make it short, we met at a common friend's party and ended up in her room making out.
We go out for drinks, everything goes really smoothly, solid interest, I have to cut the date short for an emergency, bring her home and we kiss again.
She texts to thank me for the drinks and says she'd like to see me again.
I apologize for the emergency, tell her we'll go out soon.
About a week later, I ask her out to make it up. I invite her over to my place for a chill night, cook something etc. We have a couple drinks and end up getting down to business. And again. She asks if she can stay over, etc.
Next morning she kisses me goodbye while I'm passed out in bed and I don't hear from her for 5 days. I didn't contact her either.
She then texts me for my birthday and also says she had a great time and would like to see me again soon. I reply for sure, soon.
This is where it gets tricky: a couple of days later, she shows up to an event that I'm organizing (a bunch of different stops where teams of people come, play a game and drink, then leave to the next stop). I was kind of busy running my stop and perhaps flirting slightly with another girl but anyway, she leaves with her team eventually.
Later that night, she texts me and the conversation isn't really going anywhere so I tell her I'd like to see her. That's when she tells me she's "not that person" as much as she'd like to be. I say "sure, take care". She then explains that she doesn't know what she's looking for and that she doesn't wanna be unfair to me. I reply that I'm not looking for anything in particular, let alone anything serious. Finally, she says that she's not looking for anything in particular but at the same time can't just hook up with someone and have it mean nothing. I say it's cool, take care, it was cool meeting you and hanging out.

I figured if she wanted to have something, even casual, she wouldn't be confusing like that, so I guess she's not digging me that much but then why would she always say "hope we'll see each other again soon", etc? Also why would she text me that night after the event? I'm not sure what to do next.

 

[Uncharted]

I'm not really sure how it ended but I would call her in a few days and ask her to go out. If she declines or gives you some BS about not knowing what she wants then I think go ghost for a while until she contacts you.

 

[5string]

You don't know what to do next? Lemme tell ya.

Go get a replacement.

 

[Sandow]

I get this all the time. It means she likes you and can't stand being FWB. What you're doing is working, don't let it confuse you. That's why she said "I'm not that person," but still says, "hope to see each other."

However, the bad news. There are some red flags. It means she's emotionally unstable. It means she's indecisive and doesn't know what she wants. It means she's immature. If you're goal is to date her, be prepared for lots and lots of drama.

So, if you continue to be play it cool, she'll keep saying these things. Maybe she'll keep coming back, maybe she won't. If you decide to give in and date her..well, don't say I didn't warn ya.

Just keep your cool and do what you've been doing. It's not worth the effort to get caught up in her B.S. Simply do what YOU want to do.

 

[popsickle]

Well, I've found replacements already and am fvcking other girls so it's not the issue here. But this girl was actually really chill to hang out with.
What I felt sort of stupid for was writing "alright it was nice meeting you" because it just makes me look like the guy who wanted to bang and leave. I wrote her a short message saying I was kind of a **** and that I didn't mean it like that. She replied and we had a short convo where she hinted at meeting again so we will see where that goes.