"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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i been trying to game this facebook chick i'm due to meet as a back up from the other plates i'm spinning.

her boyfriend is way out of town and she only gets to see him like once every 2 weeks so i feel it's doomed provided i pace myself right..

anyway she texts me out of the blue today since we've been flirting a bit in messages.. and tells me she's on holiday with her bf..

i never even msg her i don't really know why she's telling me this.. i think maybe she feels guilty as is trying to establish her boundaries?

she asks me if i've met her before in the past cos my name is familiar.. why do girls put that crap at the beginning of their message.. i think she's just trying to tell me she has a bf so back off?

i dont know what to respond with..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Your response

"Do I know you?"
 
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the reason you dont know what to respond with is because she has made it AWKWARD.

lets reverse the situation and suppose you sent a girl the same text. She would prolly just reply back with some nonesense, or not at all.

Why put so much pressure on yourself with the 'right' reply. girls dont.

just reply back with 'yea I get that all the time' , off to do x with y tonight, going to be a blast.

no need to say anything more. this lefts her know your doing stuff, your exciting, and your not INSECURE by trying to chase her and keep conversation going by text.

Women go on holiday with their BFs and break up straight after ALL the time. Dont read much into it. They happily swap their partner for a better monkey all the time. Are you that better catch?
 
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well that wouldn't necessarily work cos it's a facebook chick and i haven't met her yet..

her text was like 'hi i'm with my bf out of town, but was wondering have we met before? its just, thinkin, back i think your name is quite familiar'

what the hell is she on about?

i'd understand if she just wanted to carry on the convo cos she wants my attention but she wouldn't have mentioned her bf just to establish her boundaries and where i should be thinking..

i feel like she didn't even need to mention her bf if she wanted to ask me if we've met before.. she clearly put that line in to get me to back off and LJBF myself.

how would you respond to that?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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WHY is this girl such a big deal to you...sounds like your getting yourself in a flap over nothing.

send whatever.
 
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PectoralisMajor said:
WHY is this girl such a big deal to you...sounds like your getting yourself in a flap over nothing.

send whatever.
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Agreed. i dont see what the OP is saying

He chats with some girl on Facebook, maybe flirst with her alittle. she tells him she has a bf. her and her bf go on vacation

and he's wondering what he should say to that?

doesn't sound much like an interested chick to me...
 
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you must be young. nothing confusing about a woman who found someone that will give her attention without the cost of actually meeting the dude face to face.
 
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