Confused

[CORVETTE06]

*Thank you for reading my post, i would really appreciate it so much if you guys took the time to read this and tell me what you think about my situation. You would really be helping me out so much by doing this. *

I am 19 years old. In 2004, i just started college and found a girlfriend (who is also 19) within the first two months i have been there. I have been in a relationship with this girl since Novemeber 2004. Before this, I have never been in a long term relationship. I do not know if I want to be with this girl anymore. There are many positives and negatives and I can't decide if I should be single or stick with her.

- my entire family loves her
- we have fun together
- she is really sweet
- she dresses nice
- my mom really loves her
- i think i love her, but i dont know because she was my only girlfriend.
- she comes from a good family...doesn't do drugs or anything
- she is clean, doesnt have any diseases
- she loves me so much and makes me beautiful things that take a lot of time and hard work.
- always wants to be with me
- always wants me make me happy
- she has a hot body

But, there are some things i don't like. What I want to know is if these problems are big enough to dump her. do all girls have these problems? do some girls have even worse problems?

- all of her friends hate me because everytime we fight, she tells them every detail and makes me look like an animal

- she made fun of me on christmas b/c i didn't have tons of gifts under my christmas tree like she did. and on christmas she sent me a picture of her laying under the tree in all her gifts. meanwhile she returned all her gifts and i was happy with the one special gift i got...

- I am half italian, and she is 100% italian, but she is overboard with the whole thing. she wants to name her kids italian names, teach them to speak italian, and visit italy occassionally. i wasnt brought up that way and i never planned on bringing up my children like that.

- she goes out with her friends without me. so everytime i hang out with her, it is just me and her.

- she lives in another state, so over breaks and in the summer i don't see her that much

- when she goes home she argues with me because she wants to hang out with other boys. she already hung out alone with her ex b/f and her ex hookup and i found out and got mad.

- she acts like an ******* when she gets drunk

- i dont judge people on looks, and break up with girls because of physical things, but she has a big nose. it doesnt really bother me cuz other than that she is really pretty... but if i were to have kids with her they would have a messed up nose too.

-she throws temper tantrums and cries when i cant hang out with her. she then repeatidly calls my cell and house and yells on the phone.

- she cant sit home with nothing to do, she always has to do something.

-easily influenced by her friends and mother.

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I don't know what to do with this girl. I broke up with her last week, but then i felt bad because she was crying all over campus, and was extremely upset. then i thought that i made a mistake, and i got back with her. all of the girls think that i am single, and are starting to talk to me more and are interested in me. i dont have a problem meeting girls, and i dated other girls while i had this girlfriend of a year and a half. (slutty girls who dont care that i have a g/f date me, but the nice girls who i want won't)

however, i dont know if i will ever find a girl who loves me as much as this girl. even though i never had a long term relationship before, i did date many girls for a couple of weeks, months. i never saw anything really special in them...i am very fussy when it comes to girls.

please help me... i am lost and confused about what to do.....

 

[DJDamage]

You need to date more women and not settle for this one. This is not a good girlfriend behaviour. Once you broke up with her that should have been it. You can do better and you will. You are too young to be tied down to a disrespecting b itch.

Break off with her (cut off all contact) and go sarge other women. 2-3 months down the road you will see it was the best decision you ever made.

DjDamage

 

[penkitten]

But, there are some things i don't like. What I want to know is if these problems are big enough to dump her. do all girls have these problems? do some girls have even worse problems?

- all of her friends hate me because everytime we fight, she tells them every detail and makes me look like an animal ((lots of people run their mouths after arguments. in time, people may grow up and learn what to say and what not to say to other friends and family members later.))

- she made fun of me on christmas b/c i didn't have tons of gifts under my christmas tree like she did. and on christmas she sent me a picture of her laying under the tree in all her gifts. meanwhile she returned all her gifts and i was happy with the one special gift i got...((is she spoiled rotten or was she trying to be funny and it just didnt turn out very funny?))

- I am half italian, and she is 100% italian, but she is overboard with the whole thing. she wants to name her kids italian names, teach them to speak italian, and visit italy occassionally. i wasnt brought up that way and i never planned on bringing up my children like that.(( having culture in your life isnt a bad thing for kids.))

- she goes out with her friends without me. so everytime i hang out with her, it is just me and her.((being part of the group is important sometimes.))

- she lives in another state, so over breaks and in the summer i don't see her that much (( long distance is hard but it can be done.))

- when she goes home she argues with me because she wants to hang out with other boys. she already hung out alone with her ex b/f and her ex hookup and i found out and got mad. (( shame on her!))

- she acts like an ******* when she gets drunk ((me too))

- i dont judge people on looks, and break up with girls because of physical things, but she has a big nose. it doesnt really bother me cuz other than that she is really pretty... but if i were to have kids with her they would have a messed up nose too. ((italians are known for their big noses.))

-she throws temper tantrums and cries when i cant hang out with her. she then repeatidly calls my cell and house and yells on the phone. ((immature))

- she cant sit home with nothing to do, she always has to do something.(( hope she never finds herself as a poor housewife one day.))

-easily influenced by her friends and mother. ((most humans are.))

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see my notes above in (these).

 

[CORVETTE06]

she was serious about the christmas tree thing. she said it in a mean way

 

[flexion_]

Based on what you have said she sounds like a pain in the ass. I'd move on personally. I also agree that you don't need to put all your energy into one girl with behaviours like that - give each girl the time they have earned and deserved.

 

[CORVETTE06]

any more opinions? plz respond

 

[Spookey]

- my entire family loves her
- my mom really loves her

thats nice but irrelevant. you should be with her because YOU love her. dude you will have a long life and during it you will encounter MANY chicks. some which your family will like some they wont. and its almost irrelevant. she is YOURS not your families. be a man, do it for yourself.

- i think i love her, but i dont know because she was my only girlfriend.

you know love at 19? really? you aren't going to marry her,so dont stress!!!

- she comes from a good family...doesn't do drugs or anything

this point is irrelevant. you only go after quality chicks. a chick on drugs is not quality. out of curiosity. what is her relationship like with her father and mother. and what does her mother look like, cuz she will probably end up something like her.

- she loves me so much and makes me beautiful things that take a lot of time and hard work.

thats nice. is she buying you with gifts? good on her for not being an imaginationless bore. creativity should be encouraged!

- all of her friends hate me because everytime we fight, she tells them every detail and makes me look like an anima

she is a chick. chicks talk to chicks about what thier guy does. the gossiping and *****iness is a social activity that draws them together. you are a man so act like a man and dont worry about womens activities.

- she made fun of me on christmas b/c i didn't have tons of gifts under my christmas tree like she did. and on christmas she sent me a picture of her laying under the tree in all her gifts. meanwhile she returned all her gifts and i was happy with the one special gift i got...

if she was serious,shes a superficial biotch and not worth worrying about.
either way, be a man and dont let her get to you. good on you for being content with what you got, a lot of people aren't, so iv got lots of respect for you

- I am half italian, and she is 100% italian, but she is overboard with the whole thing. she wants to name her kids italian names, teach them to speak italian, and visit italy occassionally. i wasnt brought up that way and i never planned on bringing up my children like that.

you are 19. stop worrying about your kids. you dont have any yet!!!! cross that bridge when you get to it!! its not worth worrying about. again, dont let her get to you.

- she goes out with her friends without me. so everytime i hang out with her, it is just me and her.

dont be a pansy. shes allowed to go out with her friends without you. do you go out with your friends? dont stress!! you are annoyed that you ONLY get to spend time alone with your girl?? geez its a hard life

- when she goes home she argues with me because she wants to hang out with other boys. she already hung out alone with her ex b/f and her ex hookup and i found out and got mad.

dont be mad. that shows her that shes succeeding in getting under your skin. be cool. either be completely indifferent or dump her because you dont trust her. do you trust her? dont be so insecure. the whole "i dont want you to talk to your ex's or any othe guy because im jealous" is such a bad conversation.

- she acts like an ******* when she gets drunk

slut?? astronaut?? comedienne? im sorry, i dont spear star so i cant answer!!

- i dont judge people on looks, and break up with girls because of physical things, but she has a big nose. it doesnt really bother me cuz other than that she is really pretty... but if i were to have kids with her they would have a messed up nose too.

LMAO unless her nose is causing irrepairable damage to you, i wouldn't worry abt it. mate you are ONLY 19!!! the odds are you WILL NOT MARRY THIS GIRL!!! so stop worry about things which haven't happened yet, its a killer. STOP IT!!! all you are doing is unnecessarily stressing yourself out.
but LMAO on the messed up nose.... as long as shes not as bad as owen wilson!!

-she throws temper tantrums and cries when i cant hang out with her. she then repeatidly calls my cell and house and yells on the phone.

attention *****. shes semi grown up, she can deal with it. you are a busy guy.

-easily influenced by her friends and mother.

um hello?? shes a chick? show me a chick who ISN'T easily influenced by her friend and mother and ill show you a chick who used to be a guy!!!

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however, i dont know if i will ever find a girl who loves me as much as this girl. even though i never had a long term relationship before, i did date many girls for a couple of weeks, months. i never saw anything really special in them...i am very fussy when it comes to girls.

you got back together with her because you felt bad for her?? dude, wrong move!!! you CANNOT be ruled by her emotions. you have to be a man and stand behind your decisions. dont feel sorry or anything. its YOUR life and if you aren't sure, then she is wasting your time when you could be finding someone better!!!

 

[JMillion]

Next

 

[blinkwatt]

Date some other women,then you will know if she is really what you want. You never know unless you try.

 

[El MonoLoco]

Sounds like a typical chic...........
you're too young to be thinking about all that crap......just next her and deal with the rest of your life....

You totally should have just let the break up go as it was, you failed there....
who was it? Wayne who said...
"get over it go out with someone else"?????
Something like that...

 

[CORVETTE06]

thank you for responding to my post

 

[L777]

any more opinions? plz respond

yea, stop being a little b.itch and get on with your (single) life

lol....I can well see you being married before 21, you just seem like the type