"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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So I have this female friend I met at school. We were in the same night class so after class a few of us would always go out and hang out for a bit at a bar or at starbucks. Sometimes it was just me and her and I feel this closeness growing towards her. Not a sexual thing but more of a feeling like I have with my good friends, one of trust. I have no intention of trying to hook up with her or anything like that.
We usually talk every day, see each other at school/in class and get along great. My GF also thinks she is a pretty cool person and has no issues with me hanging out with her. Anyway last week she called and I was in class, so I Call her back but she was at work so she says she will call me back. No call back after a day so I give her a ring on Friday with no response. Shot her an email Friday afternoon asking her some info for the assignment in class. ITs tuesday and I havent heard from her which is weird since she is notorious for sending emails while she is at work or text messages to my phone. I am not going to initiate any further contact.
Im wondering what is going on in her head that would cause her to shut me out and not respond like this. Like I said, she was working her way into my good friend category. Last time we hung out was a week ago and we all had a blast. I am wondering if this has something to do with the fact that I am involved with someone and she is single. Is this somehow causing conflict here? There has been no mention of it so I dont think there is but who knows. School is out this week for Spring Break, so I wont see her until Monday or in class on Tuesday. I would stop by her house and see what is up, but I am no fan of people dropping by here unannounced so I wont do that to someone else.
Any ideas? I know she did not go anywhere for break, and she has popped up on instant messenger today so I am guessing she didnt die in a car accident or something. This is weird and being completely ignored has never happened to me before.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What is the point? Men don't call women just to talk or "hang out" - get some guy friends!

Maybe she found a dude. Leave her alone.
 

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Its seems strange that you are worrying about some person who doesn't call you back in a few days. Obviously she is busy and if she is your friend she will get back to you sometime in the future.
 

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Holy crap!!! A thread that doesn't complain about a girl not being interested sexually, it's a thread that complains about a girl that flakes as a friend! :crackup:

*Ahem*
Stop calling, live your own life and let her come back to you though your circle of friends.
 

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Last Man Standing said:
What is the point? Men don't call women just to talk or "hang out" - get some guy friends!

Maybe she found a dude. Leave her alone.
I guess I am weird that I see her as a friend and someone to hang out with. I have my share of "guy" friends but my closest friends are still on active duty down in NC and it seems my old buddies from HS and the neighborhood moved out over the last few years. I came home from the Army and almost everyone was gone except for a few who I still hang out with.

flexion_ said:
Its seems strange that you are worrying about some person who doesn't call you back in a few days. Obviously she is busy and if she is your friend she will get back to you sometime in the future.
Usually people call back within a day or two. This is a first, thats all.

Docs said:
Holy crap!!! A thread that doesn't complain about a girl not being interested sexually, it's a thread that complains about a girl that flakes as a friend! :crackup:

*Ahem*
Stop calling, live your own life and let her come back to you though your circle of friends.
You're right. It just seemed weird. Talking so frequently and then stop cold turkey. I guess it was part of my daily routine.

Thanks for the advice.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Expand your social circle -- it is ok to do something with her but only if your girl approves and only if she calls you.
 
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