"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Snabelkabel

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Here it goes..

A friend asked me to a party last saturday at some girls house, and i got a good connection with one of the girls there. After the party we went to a nightclub, and i danced with her the whole time. I asked if I could call her sometime, and we could grab a coffe, and she gave me her number.

I called her 4-5 days later and we agreed to meet up and grab a beer the next day(that will be Thursday). We talked alot and I followed her home afterwards. She then invited me to a singstar party on saturday. When i got home she sent me a SMS, telling me she had a good time, and she hoped i made it home saftly..

Last night(Saturday) I got to the party, and I felt everything was going good. After the party we went to a nightclub, where we danced and had a good time. Shortly before it closed we were sitting at a table and we were making out, but she stopped a told me she only wanted to be friends, it wasn't me, she didn't really want anybody right now.:confused: I followed her home, and i asked if she would like to come to me on Tuesday and watch a movie, she agreed to this. We kissed again, before she went inside. On my way home she called me. The problem is I don't remember what we talked about(bad memory from drinking).

So what do i do now ? Is it game over for me ? Does she only want to be friends or is it just some kind of a game ? What should my next move be, if any ?

I'm sorry for any bad grammer.

I would appreciate your thoughts and feedback
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well then, if she doesn't want a boyfriend, how about you turn this into a sexual relation? She is making out with you, even after she said she just wants to be friends, and you seem persistent keeping that up.

Keep it up, and just attempt to escalate it to a more sexual way. If she stops you halfway through and tells you just be friends, tell her that you're just enjoying your time with her. And then escalate further. If she does indeed really stop you in your tracks, you obviously don't steamroll because you don't want charges pressed.

I'd said you keep it going. Don't fall in love with her tho, because she said it's all just wanting to be friends.
 

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Snabelkabel said:
Here it goes..

A friend asked me to a party last saturday at some girls house, and i got a good connection with one of the girls there. After the party we went to a nightclub, and i danced with her the whole time. I asked if I could call her sometime, and we could grab a coffe, and she gave me her number.

I called her 4-5 days later and we agreed to meet up and grab a beer the next day(that will be Thursday). We talked alot and I followed her home afterwards. She then invited me to a singstar party on saturday. When i got home she sent me a SMS, telling me she had a good time, and she hoped i made it home saftly..

Last night(Saturday) I got to the party, and I felt everything was going good. After the party we went to a nightclub, where we danced and had a good time. Shortly before it closed we were sitting at a table and we were making out, but she stopped a told me she only wanted to be friends, it wasn't me, she didn't really want anybody right now.:confused: I followed her home, and i asked if she would like to come to me on Tuesday and watch a movie, she agreed to this. We kissed again, before she went inside. On my way home she called me. The problem is I don't remember what we talked about(bad memory from drinking).

So what do i do now ? Is it game over for me ? Does she only want to be friends or is it just some kind of a game ? What should my next move be, if any ?

I'm sorry for any bad grammer.

I would appreciate your thoughts and feedback
One of the skills you will learn is how to recognize BS coming from a female. Don't get fooled by mixed signals, ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.


I had a female tell me the exact same thing and I paid it no mind at all. She tried to kiss me a little later and I stopped her with my finger and said "Friends don't do that". Needless to say she changed her mind like less than a day after.


Usually when they say this, it's because they are afraid to fall in love and be hurt. So regardless if you past this obstacle, you're still going to run into some issues possibly.
 
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